He has too many sisters.......

ehaney11

I really need help with this. My fiance is the youngest of 6, so he has 5 sisters. My problem is, that I want a wedding party of 5 or 6, but I think that some his sisters expect to have that role, and we are only close to one of them. Would it be rude for me to choose only one sister has a bridesmaid, or should I just have no sisters?

jeannigirl

Talk this over with your FI and find out what he feels and thinks on this and let him know that you aren't being mean but just don't have that close connection with all his sisters like you do with the one.This is about people that you are close with. If that means just one of his sisters then the rest can stand on his side. I do understand that they are family and you feel like that their will be hurt feelings. It starts some friggin family drama on his side if you don't include them. I do hope that it all works out and they can just come to support you has guests that is an honor to.

lcroundtree

It will hurt your own friends and familiy members that want to be a BM more if you chose any or all of the sisters than if you did not include the sisters at all. Your BM are suppose to be girls (guys) that are important to YOU!!! Dont feel obligated to add people just because. No one wants to feel like an add-on. Plus, if you ask the sisters and you are not close to them, they will become more work than helpful hands.

bablingbrooke

Don't let numbers dictate the WP--I can certainly understand not wanting a WP of 20 people, but saying "I only want 5 people" is a bit of a closed-minded way to approach the situation.  Rather, ask yourself, "Who do I want standing with me on my side when I say my vows?"  Those people are your BMs.

Your FI can have his sisters on his side if he wants them in the WP.  The sides don't have to be gender-specific.

When it comes to siblings, ask yourself if this will cause trouble down the road.  Are the sisters the type to really not care if they're in the WP, or to be understanding if they're not?  Or are they the type to hold a grudge (i.e. three years from now, "Oh, you're not coming over for Thanksgiving?  I guess I shouldn't be surprised, you didn't even ask us to be in your wedding.").  I would hope they are the former, but some people are the latter.   Same with asking one but not the others.  I would imagine that in a family of 6+ siblings who are now adults, people are used to not being included in everything and get that some people get to be in some events and not in others.  But in other families (like mine), all siblings are automatically in the WP.  Not knowing your situation, I would err on the side of caution and say not to ask just one and make it an all-or-none deal.  But again, I don't know the politics of your family situation.