bridesmaid gift- like it or no?

sesummergirl

Hi- I was just wondering what you all think of this necklace as a bridesmaid present. I think its really pretty but I want to know if it has a wide appeal. http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Sterling-Silver-Large-Fleur-de-Lis-Necklace/3037717/product.html

mbcdefg

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Sterling-Silver-Large-Fleur-de-Lis-Necklace/3037717/product.htmlIt's pretty, but I personally wouldn't wear it (I'd wear it to your wedding if you asked me to). But I'm also not French and not from the New Orleans area, so maybe if your BMs are they will appreciate it more than I would. You don't have to get them all the same thing, you know. Get them different necklaces that reflect their personal taste and style. And if you're asking them to wear the necklaces in your wedding, then it doesn't count as their whole gift because it's part of their "uniform" for the day.

ffmaid

Nope I would never wear it . I do not look good in silver and it is a pain to polish. I also do not like fluer de lis. Think about them not as bridesmaids but as real individual people  

cengle

It's ok, not really my style.  Ditto the others.

duckie1905

I wouldn't wear something like that unless the bride requested it.Get them something all unique and individual to them and their personalities.  Also, if you are requiring that they wear it, it isn't a gift it is part of their uniform.

jeannigirl

I love it and I would wear that one alot. Its different so your girls might think its pretty cool and you don't see alot of people wearing it.

stina93446

I love the fluer de lis, but would not wear this.

mm45737

Don't even bother posting this question on here. All these girls seem to think "gift cards" are like the bedt bridedmaids gift ever- I tend to think its less personal than buying matching jewelry. I buy gift cards when I don't know whst else to get someone. Anyways, the necklaces are very pretty! I like them. And I think it does count as a gift even if you do have them wear it for the wedding- its one less thing for them to buy AND its something they can keep as a momento of your special day.

ffmaid

mm- do not speak for all of us. I view girf cards as a lazy gift that shows no thought. But I do think that people should know their closest friends well enough to be able to get them something they would liek as people not generic bridesmaids

banana468

mm, it's a gift ONLY if they know they'll wear it after the wedding.I have no issue with giving jewelry.  It just needs to be the style that the BMs would wear.  Ditto for wraps, clutches, etc.

stina93446

mm, I don't like gift cards. I like personalized thoughtful gifts.

sesummergirl

I swear these message boards are useless because nobody seems to actually read the question. Why is every post focusing on how a necklace the bridesmaids have to wear is not a gift? I never said anything about making them wear the necklace, I simply asked if it would it make a nice GIFT for them.

michelle1433

I swear these message boards are useless because nobody seems to actually read the question. Why is every post focusing on how a necklace the bridesmaids have to wear is not a gift? I never said anything about making them wear the necklace, I simply asked if it would it make a nice GIFT for them.I agree with the other girl that said that you shouldn't post these questions on here.  Personally, I think the necklace is really cute and if that's what you want to get the BM's then you should! These days, necklaces seem to be a very popular item to get your BM's. I got them for all of mine. I also got them a few other things in addition. It is TOTALLY up to you! A lot of people on here have strong opinions that they should keep to themselves. Good luck

banana468

So if you ask for the opinions of others, you only want the mild ones?  I think 1950 is calling....

sesummergirl

In response to banana's 2 posts.... again you dont seem to understand a simple sentence. my first post asks if people think the necklaces are pretty like i do. my 2nd post refers to people not answering the question asked, not about people having strong opinions. you were one of the people whose response simply stated that something they have to wear is not a gift, which has absolutely nothing to do with the question. your 2nd post claims that i dont want people to express their opinions. of course i want opinions, but not random opinions that pop into the writers head: ones that answer the question asked. a strong opinion that references the actual question could be something like "yes i love the necklace" or "no i hate the necklace" or anything in between. to everyone else who actually read the post before responding- thanks for your help!

michelle1433

Banana needs to mind her own business - didn't your parents ever teach you, if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all....

L&BAug05

www.belladesignsnh.etsy.com if looking for other ideas for jewelry.  Can customize pieces!

clseale13

OP: Sometimes these boards sound like broken records. Who the hell says that necklaces for the wedding day aren't gifts? I've been given several and I love them. If I don't love them...big freakin whoop, I'm still grateful. When I'm in a wedding I never feel entitled to a gift at all and I'm always happy w/whatever the bride chooses to do. People also say that paying for wedding day hair and make-up isn't a gift. I would LOVE that! That means I don't have to pay for it...which is basically the same as putting $100+ dollars in my wallet. All of the girls that say that are certainly entitled to their opinions...but they say it like it's a rule. It is not. Not everyone feels that way.

banana468

clseale, a gift CAN mean different things to different people.  The important thing is that the OP's attendants appreciate it. 

lizziemoopsc

I think the necklace is gorgeous and have loved any necklace received as a gift for being a bridesmaid. Even if the design isn't something I'd normally wear, I still cherish the necklace since it has ties to a special event and is meaningful.

colleen1414

i dont care for them at all. but i also dont know your bridesmaids either.