Bridesmaids costs--advice needed

tarmar81

My bridesmaids all opted not to have their makeup done because they didn't realize I was going to pay for it. I was just going to apply the cost of their makeup to their hair instead, which is the greater cost. Makeup is $30, hair is $60. (Some of them prefer to do their own makeup regardless of cost.)I'm covering their meals until after the wedding. I've also purchased jewelry for them and cute personalized gifts. I'm already going over my "bridesmaids" budget. Is it inappropriate NOT to pay for their hair too? Does anyone have any advice? I feel terrible now and feel obligated to pay for their hair and makeup in full but my budget is making this very difficult now. Advice?

banana468

Just say, "If you want to get your hair done the cost is X.  If you just want to come with me to the salon then that's cool too."I'd also add that you're going to pay for makeup so they know exactly what you're planning to offer.  It's lovely and this way they can budget accordingly.And please be flexible if they don't want to get their hair done - this way they can do their hair on their own.

Mrs.B6302007

Ditto banana.  You can just tell them how much it will cost.If you really want to help out, here's another option:Since you've already budgeted the $30 per person for makeup, you could give them an option. You can offer to cover their full makeup or half of their hair and they choose which they want.  That way you're still spending the same amount that you budgeted.

mbcdefg

You're already being quite generous. You don't need to pay for their hair unless you're telling them they MUST get it professionally done (or if you "strongly prefer it"). As long as you give them the choice, then you don't have to pay and you shouldn't feel bad about it.

tarmar81

Thanks ladies!  I was starting to feel like a mean bride and friend, but I'm glad to know it's not expected to pay for all of that.  I think I'm kind of losing sight of what's appropriate...probably read too many posts where girls practically bought each of their bridesmaids a ferrari.

banana468

I think DH would forever glorify FSIL if she gives me a Ferrari for being in her wedding. 

jeannigirl

That is not expected to pay for the girls attire or hair or makeup. That would be your choice if you can afford that. So let them do their own hair and makeup. You already are pretty generous in providing all their meals. So that in itself is enough.