What to wear??? Dad 1, Groom 0

chris.tyroper

I am having a wedding that will be outside on the water.  My fiance and I have always imagined him in just dress pants and a nice button down, however my dad has different ideas.  My dad is the greatest and is paying for the entire wedding so we both want him to be happy.  He wants him to at least wear a tie.  That is the plan but we are worried that a tie with no jacket will look stupid and we have no idea what color pants, shirt and tie to wear!!!!!  This will be in November and our colors are burnt orange, chocolate brown and green.  Girls are wearing chocolate brown dresses and I am wearing ivory.  Please HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bablingbrooke

Oh for pete's sake, let him wear the damn tie.  This is not a "Please HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" situation.

chris.tyroper

To me it is a "please help" situation and since we are all different, I don't think it is right for you to judge what is or isn't a "please help" situation.  Isn't that what these boards are for, helping each other??  If you don't have advice or you think it is stupid, don't bother replying!!!  He is going to wear the tie.  My question is about what color pants, shirt and tie would work best with my colors and what the girls are wearing??  Guess maybe I gave too much information!

bablingbrooke

If you don't want to be judged for being melodramatic, TK was not the place to go.  Just an FYI. If you didn't want advice on the tie w/o jacket situation, why bring up your concern about it?  Your plea for help was very open-ended and not limited to the color scheme.The men don't need to match the women, they just need to complement the overall color scheme.  You're in for a looooooooooooooong engagement if you work yourself up over every little detail like this.

lyndausvi

Look my parents paid for my wedding and are pretty old school.  I think my dad was going to have a heart attack when he found out DH did not want to wear a suit, tux, jacket or tie. But you know what?, he got over it.  It helped that googled pictures of grooms not in suits to show him the look we were going with.My girls wore brown dresses.  I wore ivory, DH had khaki pants and an ivory shirt, GM's wore khaki pants with brown shirts.

chris.tyroper

Just the answers I was looking for!  Thanks for the actual advice on my "situation".  I love the idea of khaki pants and ivory shirt for the groom and colored shirt for the groomsmen!  Thanks ladies!

*BeachBride0410*

I think khaki or brown pants, white button ups and a burnt orange tie...if you can find one. 

Leah&Christian09

Want some advice? Stop over using punctuation. It makes you look 12.

trix1223

chris:  you post on an open board, and so do the rest of us.  You're free to post whatever you want, and we're free to post our opinions on what you write.  If anyone is out of line, the (wonderful) mods on this board will take care of it.  Not your call.

banana468

Wearing a tie or no tie is fine. If it's your FI's attire, just say, "Dad, I appreciate everything and FI will wear what he wants knowing that it's going to be perfectly tasteful and appropriate for the occasion." If you're wearing a more formal gown, he should dress to match that formality however many people bend the rules on attire. If this is the one thing that your dad is requesting as the financier of the wedding, then throw the guy a bone and ask your FI to wear a tie. PPs have great suggestions that tan dress pants with a tie in any of your colors will be great.

megk8oz

Well, is anyone else wearing a tie? What are the GMs wearing? That might help, since your FI just needs to be a little "fancier" than them to stand out.Also, not to press the issue, since this is your vision, not mine, but why not just have him in a simple, maybe brown or khaki, suit for the ceremony? This way your dad sees him getting married in a tie (Remember, he IS paying). He can always remove the tie and jacket after the ceremony ... I mean really, most guys at least have the jacket off by the end of the night anyway, that shouldn't be a big deal.

ksvkooi

Chocolate brown pants (hint of pin stripe would be cool), ivory shirt, orange patterned tie, and comfortable brown shoes. Men care more about comfortable shoes more than any part of their outfit.He will look like he belongs with you in terms of being dressed up, but not too dressed up for the location.Now, everyone can be happy!