MOH - Diff. color?

mehgank

Hello ladies! So, my MOH wants to wear a different color than the rest of my BM's. My wedding colors are black & white with hints of aqua, so I had chosen black BM dresses with an aqua ribbon under the bust. Well, my MOH wants to wear an aqua dress with a black ribbon. I think this will make her really stand out in an out, and not in a good way. I don't want to sound all Bridezilla, but I think it would steal focus, you know?Am I being completely irrational here? I'm thinking of maybe telling her that the other BM's can choose to either wear black or aqua dresses, so long as there's balance.

mbcdefg

I've seen lots of maids of honor wear the opposite color in Knot bios, and once at a wedding I actually attended. Your call. I absolutely don't think you're out of line or bridezilla if you politely tell her that you'd rather have her in black with an aqua ribbon. I think the bride should always get to pick the color (unless it looks hideous on the BMs, in which case I think they have the right to speak up).

banana468

I think it can look great to have her in an aqua dress with a black ribbon.  My MOH had a shawl of a different color so she stood out at the ceremony.  However the color of the dress is really your call. 

lissa71679

if you want her to wear what the others are wearing just say so.  I think her in a different dress might take away some attention.  I think people will be drawn to the bright dress in a sea of black and white. I guess that would be an option.  How many women are in your party?  if half wear one color and the other another color it would flow better

mehgank

I was thinking over it today, and I think I might have found a way to make look a little less distracting. I have 5 bridesmaids, a junior bridesmaid and a flower girl. So, I could go like this:MOH-aqua dressBM-black dressBM-aqua dressBM-black dressBM-aqua dressJBM-black dressFG-aqua dressThat way it'll look balanced without one girl standing out like a sore thumb. If she still wants to look honored in some way, maybe I'll have her wear a flower in her hair that matched the one I'll be wearing (white anemone w/black center).

banana468

Honestly, I wouldn't do that only because it means that if you must have balance, you're forcing your BMs to line up in a very particular way.Instead, what about just offering the flower to start with?  It's an easier solution and a bit lower maintenance for both your BMs and you.

britab

I don't think you're being unreasonable. My sister was the MOH (we had black and white BM dresses). The only thing that made her stand out was jewel on her bouquet. It's not about showcasing the MOH.

trix1223

At DD's wedding, her MOH (my other DD) just wore a different colored sash on the same dress.  I think changing her bouquet is a really good suggestion.

C W

I agree that having her in teal would make her stand out too much since everyone else (except you) will be in black. I think alternating black and teal would look a little hokey TBH. Why don't you suggest having the BMs wear just black and have her wear a black dress with a teal sash? Or she could wear a different style of dress? Bottom line, it is your wedding and it is not unreasonable for you to dictate the colours. You are not being irrational at all - it is a fairly large detail and I can tell you really aren't crazy about the idea.

swim1011

I don't think alternating will be a good idea.  It kind of eliminates the point your MOH was trying to make- she wanted to be different from the other girls, because she is the MOH.  I agree with PPs- instead, have her put the flowers in her hair, or give her different flowers in her bouquet.  Do you have another accent color to your wedding that you could make her sash instead?  There's lots of ways to do this, but in the end, the dress color is your call.

hanron007

If you decide to put her in a different color, I'd put the best man in the same color...so that they match and then the groomsmen and the bridesmaid's in the same color so that they match.My fiance really wanted to put his brother in a different color vest than the rest of the guys but I didn't want my sister in a different color and I thought it would be weird if just the BM stood out (because FI and I will match and the GM will match the BM) In the end my FI decided not to do tuxes at all so it didn't matter.

mehgank

So, I approached my sister (the MOH) about the situation. I told her that instead of having her in a different color than the rest of the bridesmaids, that they should all be in the same color, except her bouquet will be wrapped in the same ribbon as mine, and I'll get her the same kind of flower to wear in her hair as I'll be wearing (I'm ordering all my flowers through DKDesigns, because I want black & white anemones and those aren't in season when we're having the wedding).How I proved my point was I logged on to Davids Bridal and did a wedding party mock-up to show just how much she'd stand out against a sea of black dresses.

salvisgirl21

It is totally up to you! I have all my girls in berry and my MOH is in a shade lighter called sugarplum! I definitely thought it over for a few before deciding...so take your time...you're definitely not being a bridezilla! It's your wedding...not the MOH's!

banana468

Sounds like things went well.  Glad it worked out!!