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laurenandnicklaurenandnick member
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Hi All, Wow, I'm realizing more and more that weddings attract major drama!My three bridesmaids are practically at each other's throats right now. I'm so frustrated. My MOH has taken to emailing all of their "interactions" to me and basically ruining every surprise they had arranged. I am at a loss for words. I just don't know what to say to them. One bridesmaid is not involved at all. They're mad she's not putting in any money, updating them on the status of the shower games, etc. One bridesmaid is upset the MOH waited until 3 weeks before the shower to ask for money. (MOH booked a $500 luncheon at a fancy hotel without asking anyone.) And the MOH is upset no one is paying her anything. And she's basically tattling to me now and asking me to step in. Any advice as to what I should say to them? TIA!
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  • banana468banana468 member
    Knottie Warrior 25000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    1) Tell the MOH that you are excited about what she wants to do but you have to stay out of this.  It's not your place to be involved.  If she persists, say, "If you wanted to book an expensive place, it's something that you should have sorted out with the other girls.  Don't come to me as a way to try to get my friends to spend more money."2) Tell anyone who complains, "I understand if you're upset but this is something that you all need to sort out.  I love all of you and don't 'need' anything but you in those pretty dresses on the day of."And if it's brought up again, just cut her off, "-I'm going to have to cut you off.  I'm staying out of this." and then begin to change the subject.
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  • jeannigirljeannigirl member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments
    I so am with banana's advice, thats the best way to handle that. Shame on your MOH for not taking care of that business on her own.Just stay firm and do not listen to any of that.
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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    You MOH is being a jerk.  The other BMs should tell her to STFU.  Your other BMs don't have to contribute money or time if they can't or don't want to.  Your MOH booked something without the input of others so she needs to pay for it herself, unless someone offers assistance.It is not your place to get involved. 
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