I just read the "is it ok?" thread and noticed Stagemanager's response to feeling suspicious about being the only 'straight up BM' and the reasoning for it... From the moment we were engaged almost a year ago, I knew my MOHs would be my two younger sisters because we've always been each others' best friends. FI and I decided to just leave it at siblings (2 brothers, 2 sisters) to avoid any drama with friends feeling slighted. Over the course of the last few months, I've grown really close to my FSIL (just engaged!). She's been one of the most supportive friend to talk to and lean on, and I can't thank her enough for it. I want her to be part of the wedding because she's become so important to me and my family, but I wanted to wait until an appropriate time to ask her to be a BM. I'd still like to keep my two sisters as my MOHs, but now am starting to wonder if she'll feel at all suspicious about the fact that she was the 'lone BM'. I would think she'd understand because the other two are my sisters and I want to honor them with a title that makes them feel special. I'm not making things even, as adding her actually makes it uneven. She's helping out with the wedding because she's excited about it and loves DIYing things. I'm doing the same for her wedding when the time comes, but don't expect anything out of doing so. I'm hoping she doesn't think it's because I want any sort of help. Would you feel the same way as Stagemanager if you were asked later on to be a BM? Is this something you would talk to her about, to assure her that it's not for any reason other than wanting to have her stand by me? Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance!