ever did this?

daphny32

my MOH is my sister...i love her dearly and she has been there every step of the way in planning this wedding. all has gone rather smoothly until it was time to choose dresses for bms, moh, junior bm, and matron of honor. skipping to the point, i decided to go the with bill levkoff line but my sister(MOH) doesnt like any of the dresses.... she is "willing" but definetly not happy to wear whatever dress i like. so i guess you could say there is no problem ...but i was wondering ...if i decided to go with a different line...just for my sister....lets say even a different material ...would it look bad....my bms are wearing satin dresses and some of the dresses i noticed my sister did like where in the silk family....should i just go with a dress in the same line as every one else or can i go with a different line/ different material? has any one ever done this? what is your take

jeannigirl

I think that would be okay to have her wear something a little different then the rest. Just has long has it is in the color scheme that you have.

ffmaid

Often MOH wear different but complementary dresses. So you could do that to make her happy or you could ask her to humour you on the dresses. FYI I love bill levkoff had I told my BM a line that woudl have been it

laurening

I think it's fine. Some styles will obviously look better than others. I'd want to compare the two styles side by side and take some pictures to see how it looks. Can you bring another BM along on the shopping trip to try on the exact Bill Levkoff dress or even try it on yourself to see how it coordinates with whatever dresses she picks.

KJDOHERTY

It's fine for her to where something complimentary.  You said you also have a matron of honor though.  I'd just be careful to check with her and see if she also wants to wear a dress that sets her apart from the other BMs.  You wouldn't want to just put your MOH in a diff dress to 'distinguish her' and not also give your matron the same choice. 

daphny32

o im planning on doin that also...thank you

Julia O'Brien

When I was a BM I wore the dress that the bride wanted me to wear, and I was happy to make her happy. My MOH had the very same issue. She tried on a dress that she absolutley LOVED, but it didn't come in any good colours, and not even close to the colour we all had in mind. So she went on a mission to find the style she liked in a decent colour.. and we quickly found out that it pretty much didn't exist. During her hunt she tried on this fantastic dress.. so flattering, was a perfect colour and fabric.. style even similar to the dress she had fallen so much in love with. BUT it wasn't "the dress", so she moved on.  Her hunt continued, and turned into a dizzy of dissappointments, to the point where she decided she wanted to have it made, even though it was going to take longer and cost more then buying it and waiting for it to come in. Up until this point I had gone along with her obsession, but it was starting to make us all worry about her mental health , so I put my foot down and told the other BM's to order the other dress that was awesome but not "the dress". the MOH was mad at me for a week and then decided she'd better hurry up and order as time was running out. At the end of the day she bought that first "perfect" dress for herself anyway for her own personl use to wear to other weddings she was attending.The point of my story? we wasted a lot of time worrying about something that in the end she got over pretty quickly.. b/c she realized eventually that it wasn't her wedding day, and that (although I feel kind of like a bridezilla saying it) at the end of the day it was me that was getting married.It's totally cool for the BP not to wear the same thing however.. I quite like that look. So if you're happy with it.. go for it.I watched my friend get married and have her family dictate how everything was going to be, my Mum said that happened to her too.. and it's just not right. If you want her to wear something closer to the other BMs, then just tell her. She'll get over it.