CherylBarrel86

amykay19

Hey Cheryl, I just saw your post about the gifts and you know what i love it. I am giving my girls all picture frames, necklaces, a bag with there name on it, and flip flops to wear to the wedding. And prolly a compact mirror with there names ingraved on it. PIB alot of people on here are saying dont make this about you and dont give "wedding related items" but i agree 100% with you im only getting married once and i can give them regualr gifts all year. some girls ive seen are giving concert tickets and coach bags, and lugage and where as thats great for them but im sorry i cant afford that to give to my girls. (sorry if i affend any girls on here, i dont mean to)

trix1223

cheryl, one of the things you'll find here is that people will answer you honestly, because we don't have a vested interest in making you happy~like your mom and friends do. What you were looking for on your OP was validation:  you didn't tell us that you had already bought the gifts.  What you asked whether we thought they were a good idea.  And people gave you honest feedback~overwhelmingly negative to be sure, but honest.If you want validation, I suggest you try out the local boards.  They tend to be more creampuffs and sprinkles that these international boards are.And FWIW:  I'd toss the keepsake box as soon as I got home.  Once you give someone a gift, it's theirs to do as they want with it.  So whatever they do isn't rude:  it's their trinket.

duckie1905

I'm really sorry but I would totally throw it away. Actually I've thrown a lot of stuff away that I've gotten at weddings, including personalized stuff, keepsake-type trinkets, and photographs in frames that were personalized (personalization just isn't my style). To me, it is just a trinket that will collect dust and clutter up my house. It isn't rude to throw something away that belongs to me.

mbcdefg

Oh, for the love of gravy. Next time, don't ask for opinions if you can't stomach the answers. Go to your local or club board and they will oooh and aaah over whatever you say.

peachkins

Honestly Cheryl, I wouldn't throw your box away.  But the reason for that would probably be more guilt than anything else.  I've gotten so many little trinkets and "keepsakes" over the years from various people, and it's one of the reasons I have so much stuff.  I can't stand to throw stuff like that out, but I really should.  Yes, depending on what it is and who it's from the item might bring back a fond memory, but any other functional item that you would give could do the same thing.  I will say that I like the idea of the picture, I'm just not crazy about the way in which you're presenting it to them.  I would much rather have it in a simple frame that could be more easily displayed, or even just as-is so I could put it in an album.  Just a different point of view for you.

mbcdefg

Correction: you wouldn't have asked if you'd known that people would tell you they didn't like your idea. YOU are the one who asked for opinions. So stop calling people immature names and act like an adult ... otherwise, find some other children to go play with.

peachkins

Geez, sorry that giving you an honest answer obviously wasn't your cup of tea.

mbcdefg

I literally laughed out loud at that one. Thanks, I needed that today

CherylBarrel86

Cool, are we friends now?

mbcdefg

I never disliked you, I just don't see why you felt the need to call people _bitches for not giving you the answer you were hoping to hear from, "What do you think of this?"Everyone pretty much said the same thing: whether or not WE like it doesn't matter. What matters is if your BMs will like them. If so, great. If not, then find something else. Nobody here was rude to you or called you a name like you called us, so there's no need to get defensive over it ... are you just upset that most people didn't agree with you, or are you upset because all these answers are making you think that your BMs might not like the photo boxes after all?

lovebug922

Every time I stop by this board looking for helpful advise, its always the most ridculous and snarky posts. I think your ideas are fine, CheryBarrel86. Your girls are your BMs because they love you and are happy to be there for you! I've been in several weddings. In every single one, the bride gave me jewelry to wear on the wedding day, but I loved it and will continue to wear it. A couple times the bride also gave me a picture frame or something to remember the day by. I was happy that she thought of something to thank me, but I wasn't expecting anything more. I'm getting my bridesmaids the nicest jewelry that I can afford. I think they will really like what I've picked out for them. I'm also getting them a bottle of wine and a nice note for the wedding. I may do something else if I can think of something good. My girls know that I appreciate their love and support and I'm glad to give them a nice thank you note the night before the wedding. I really wish people would drop the snarky. I haven't once gotten a good recommendation from popping on here. And now I'm popping out...

banana468

Giving jewelry as a gift is fine IF you're picking it out with your BM's taste in mind.  If it's with YOUR taste in mind then it's not a gift for them.Stage, the OP may have deleted or Retread may have removed posts that were not acceptable at all.I really wish people would drop the snarky. I haven't once gotten a good recommendation from popping on here. And now I'm popping out... PP, the posts here are blunt and honest but rarely snarky.   It's unfortunate that you don't think the advice you've received thus far was good.  Is it possible that you were seeking validation rather than advice?