Creative ways to ask someone to be a bridesmaid?

bourgehm

I need some ideas on a creative way to ask someone to be in my wedding party. She was my roommate last year for a semester, and I really want her to be in my wedding party. She has NO clue that I'm planning on asking her, SO, I want to surprise her. I know some people who ask their BMs in a creative way... IDEAS??

trix1223

I think you should remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.  My DD simply called up her friends and asked them.  They were thrilled, and I don't imagine they'd have been more thrilled if she also gave them a cookie shaped like a bridesmaid dress.Honestly, ask them out for a cup of coffee and ask them.

ootmother2

This question has been posted on the knot quite a bit and usually I just think calling or writing them is the best way.There was one lady who got a fugly old bridesmaid dress at a yard sale and packed it up with a note and gave it to her.  I don't remember what she put in the note though

mbcdefg

Hire a skywriter.

MAKohler1986

For my girls who are local, I just asked them while we were hanging out. I have three bridesmaids who live in different states.... I bought each girl a Chicago bridal magazine and wrapped it in ribbon (our wedding colors - of course). Then I searched online for a "Will You Be My Bridesmaid" poem and wrote it out on green (our wedding color) paper with our wedding monogram. I also threw in a candy "Ring Pop" and took it to the post office. Everyone loved it!

bablingbrooke

If you have to ask strangers for a "creative" way, it won't be genuine. I asked mine over the phone. They were all thrilled. As trix said, for them the honor is in BEING asked, not HOW they are asked.

TheFutureMrsM-LoungingBeachside

Do what feels right to you. I wrote each of them a personal note about our friendship and how much it meant to me and that I would be honored if they would be bridesmaids. Three of the four lived out of town so theirs were mailed to them. One of my MOHs is in town and so we were having lunch together and I gave her hers in person. My BFF asked me to be her MOH over facebook chat. I found it no less special than if she had sent me flowers (and this way I don't have to chase the cat out of the flowers). Like PP said, the honor is in being asked, not in how its asked.

tiffspff

My girls are all OOT, so I called them and asked them.  I wouldn't have traded hearing their excitement for all the creative ways to ask in the world.  They're thrilled to be a part of my special day.  And had I mailed something or sent something to them, I wouldn't've known how excited they were.

ivelissed

I like Mak's idea!

CTGirl30

I'm torn myself between the just ask category and adding in a sentimental touch (I kind of like the idea of giving them something tangible but then again my friends are the sentimental types who hang on to things like that). Be it a heartfelt card that you write and hand to her over lunch so you're together while she reads it...or a small photobook you make of your memories together (leave the last page blank with your wedding date and ask her if she will be with you on that day as your bridesmaid when she flips to the end)...I agree that the honor is in the asking but sometimes people want to add a little "more" to the asking but you also don't have to go all crazy spending alot of money or stressing yourself over how to do it. I'm sure she'll still be honored no matter what you decide.

ladyluckwi

I enjoy being crafty, so I made each one a card and will mail it to them.  Do you have a hobby each one knows about? Like to bake? But I agree, don't try to do something just cause you feel you have to be "creative", they'll be pumped anyway you ask!

bourgehm

Thanks guys. But I really want to do something special for her. I asked the other BMs over the phone or one in person, but I just wanted to do something fun for this girl. I think i'll make a little scavanger hunt and at the end I'll cut out a big diamond ring out of cardboard and decorate it and ask her. That will be fun, and cheap. I'm the type of girl that likes to be creative and she enjoys fun stuff like that. So yeah! Thanks girls though!

ffmaid

Honestly if you asked teh others the genuine normal way it will seem wierd when she comments at some event about the wacky scavenger hunt for asking to be bm and teh other girls were just asked from the bottom of your heart not from a silly game. Seriously just ask you will cause yourself problems doing uneven things for different people. Cal her up and ask

CTGirl30

Ditto ffmaid - if you already asked the other girls via a simple phone call, it's best to do the same with the roomate. Otherwise the potential for awkwardness exists...

CTGirl30

So, the others will not feel left out one bit. You can't really be sure of that, though, and by treating one girl differently than the others...it's a little weird. I can't imagine asking 2 girls with a phone call or over coffee but then arranging a whole elaborate scavenger hunt or what have you for the 3rd. It's kind of like, huh??I really think it's best to keep it consistent now that we know that you've already asked the other girls in one particular way. I just don't get the need to single this girl out more than everyone else.

bourgehm

stagemanager14: Really? Wow.... So since I'm a young bride that changes things... yeah... alright. You are serously the type of person that make me extremely frustrated. I am none less likely to do anything than you are. Age does not matter one bit. There are many young brides whom last their whole lives with their husband, there are many old brides who last no time at all. Our premarital counselor tells us to not listen to people like you, as do our parents and numerous others. Isn't it sad that people have to find some way to judge everybody... hmm.....

bourgehm

O thanks, I misread your statement earlier when you said I was a 'young bride'. And, I did consider what everyone was saying. It's just that I know my best friends more than you guys do obviously, so which is why when I put this up I asked for creative ways to ask, not if I should... Yeah, 'younger' brides do tend to be sentimental and like the OOT bags and such. But that is partly because if an 'older' bride is on here, it's more often their second marriage. The younger brides, it's their first marriage. Nothing wrong with being overly excited about it and going all out with all of the little sentimental details and such.

mbcdefg

But that is partly because if an 'older' bride is on here, it's more often their second marriage. The younger brides, it's their first marriage. What are you basing this on? That's a really unfair assumption to make. A lot of brides here who aren't in their 20s (or teens) are first-timers who may have put their education or their career before marriage. Likewise, I've seen brides on here younger than me who are already on their second (or even third, sometimes) marriages. And I also wouldn't blame this sentimentality for cutesy cards or details on age. I'm not drastically older than you but I find all this stuff to be a crappy waste of money. Blame it on personal preference, not age.

ffmaid

Hey calling folks old bags is not the way to show your mature side. Also just because older ie 33 in my case does not mean it is not your first and only marriage. However, one thing you might learn with time is that what is cute to you may cause hurt feelings and no cutsy little thing is worth hurting the feelings of those who love you. So yes you are very very likely to in almost any case be causing somethng between eye rolling and amazingly hurt feeling by pursuing this idea. that alone is reason to quit the corny idea and save your friends. But you like your idea and are certain your friend wil think it is sweet and nobody will feel singled out or not as good. Well that my dear is naive. Also you think that corny beats sincere. If you really liked this gal you would just ask her sincerly and be done with it. But that is not the case so I actually expect to hear you complaining in about 6 months how all your bm are burnt out and sick of your wedding talk and ignoreing your emails ect and how can you kick them out. because you are setting about this so so corny. Also at 19 you have probably never been a bm and probably have no perception that it truly although your friends love you does not matter that much to them compaired to their own lives. Particularly in teh 18-22 age they will be being self centered just like you are being self centered. But you are going to do some corny thing and you are going to be sad when you find out that they really do not care as much about yoru wedding as you see in bridal shows.

bourgehm

No, it's not necessarily their second marriage if they're older. Of course not. I was just saying that young people are more often on their first marriage. There is a higher percentage of older people whom its their second marriage... I was saying nothing against older brides at all. You're an 'older' bride: Awesome. You're a young bride: Awesome. No issue...