How did you ask your WP?

kls114

Looking for creative ideas. TIA!

bablingbrooke

I picked up the phone and asked them. Remember that for them the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW they are asked. No matter how you do it, it will be memorable and special for them

trix1223

ditto my buddy brooke.  Your friends will remember your wedding because it's your wedding and they love you, not because you came up with some "creative" way to ask.Having said that, PLEASE re-think asking anyone yet.  Your wedding is 670 days away.  It is WAAAAAYYYYYYYYY too early to be asking."Why" you ask?  Scroll down this board-go back a couple of pages as well, and you'll find countless posts from brides who asked this early, and now regret their decision and want to know how to "demote", "fire", "kick out" a bridesmaid.Things happen.  Friendships ebb and flow.  It's natural.  Your choices for BM's today may be 100% different from your choice in Nov. 2010 which is the soonest I'd recommend asking.  There's nothing, nothing, nothing a WP needs to do this early, so just hold off.  You'll come back and thank me.  Really, you will.

kls114

Thanks! Definitely not asking until the year mark. I know some people have used DIY cards and whatnot. I was looking for things along those lines.

mbcdefg

I asked my sister in person when I visited my parents' house, and I asked my friend when we were eating at a diner together (I may have paid for the meal, I forget). I thought it was important to ask them separately because that way they wouldn't feel pressured if I'd asked them in front of each other. Because you never know if people might want to decline or have some concerns they want to address with you before saying yes ... that can be embarrassing in front of a group and they might just say yes in that case and then you'll run into problems later because of it. I also liked asking separately because then I could ask them their dress budgets in private (and it turned out to be the same amount). I'm not into the cards or scrapbooks so I can't help you there. Maybe give them a bottle of wine or a box of candy with a nice note.

banana468

We just asked either on the phone or face to face.  When FSIL asked me to be a BM, it was on the phone.  I didn't need anything to be given to me.  That one phone call kept me gushing all day. 

kls114

I like the bottle of wine & asking seperately. I agree that would make it more personal. Thanks!

meganita68

I went to the craft store and found picture frames with three spots.  Then found poems that asked them to be my MOH or BM that I thought fit us then I put them in one of the spaces.  The other two spots I put pictures of us years ago together and a picture of us now.  I then decorated the frames with meaningful words and sayings.  I also got them small meaningful gifts.  I just mailed them out so I do not know the response yet.

bablingbrooke

Why ask for ways to ask them now if you aren't going to ask for almost a year?

trix1223

brooke-I thought the same thing....

kls114

Just gathering ideas. I am at a standstill with planning thats all.

kls114

Relax yourself. I am glad I am at a stand still--I got all the majors done at 2009 pricing and can enjoy our engagement. Just thought I would gather some ideas and thank you to the ladies that gave great ones. Unlike your unnecessary "babbling".

bablingbrooke

There's no need to get snippy with me, little sister.

kls114

LOL. Just saying. Can't people ask a question--isn't that what these boards are for?!?

bablingbrooke

Of course. You just don't get to dictate the responses.

kls114

And you do? Right. Your comedy seriously.

banana468

To your corners ladies!  If you want to know comedy then watch the Emmy  Awards with me.  They're on right now.Babling, I trust that kls knows the proper timing.  She's got a way to go but she's a mod on another board - not exactly her first post. 

kls114

Thanks Banana!

bablingbrooke

My apologies.

carrieoz_76

We were eating chips and salsa and drinking tasty scratch margaritas when I popped the question. Nothing fancy here.

ffmaid

I asked them when I saw then next so 1 over beer 1 over ice cream . the oot friend I asked on the phone. cutsey is actually lesss meaningful and less sweet then sincerly asking

melishka716

I just asked, but if I could do it over again, I might've asked them in a cute way. I like the wine idea.

freckles79964

I sent them text messages. Not even a phone call, a text. Nobody complained about the lack of original poetry and they all texted back 'yes' fairly quickly. I honestly never thought twice about it until I joined the Knot and saw how other people were giving presents and designing special "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards.

mcrotty

I got flag football jerseys and had them screenprinted with a logo on front (like Team Bride, but i did my last name) and then got their names on the back.

kls114

I have seen the Team Bride shirts! Such a great idea! Thanks ladies!

Colg512

I know this is an older post but I was going to ask the same question! my day is pretty far too  and we're not even sure if that the date yet since we haven't booked anything. but its never too early to plan it all out!!Have you figured anything Some Ideas for you incase you haven't. These are ways that I was asked: I did have a few just come out and ask, a phone call, a walk down the hall at work, a walk with her and her daughter, one actually never asked she basically said we're going shopping for dresses tuesday I'll pick you up at 5! lol  one invited us out to dinner and a movie when 27 dresses came out which was perfect and she gave us each a little card saying something like roses are red, violets are blue will you be my bridesmaid please say i do and it had a picture of me and her at the bottom.another invited me over for a girls night it was just the 2 of us we were both pg at the time so while everyone else was out at the bar we sat at her house drinking root beer eating pop corn and watching Sex & the City the movie and she handed me a card. It was a photo incert one and on the inside it said something old something new something borrowed something YOU?!? will you be my bridesmaid?I was actually thinking of sending flowers to each of mine.  and going to the florist and asking if they could use this vase (http://www.weddingstand.com/bridesmaids-personalized-glass-photo-vase-3091) and putting a picture of the 2 of us in it. Every girl loves getting flowers at work! I'm not sure though I'll have 2 MOHs, 8 BMs, and possibly 3 JrBMs!! so that might be a little too expensive! I was then thinking of asking a couple at a time  maybe dinner/over for drinks/ movies.. since they are all friends from different groups. I want to do something "different"!