Junior Bridesmaid and Groomsmen dilemma...

mallarina

Hi! We're having a very small wedding, and I planned on having my best friend and sister be my bridesmaids, but my mother insisted my niece be a junior bridesmaid (which I have no problem with). My fiance was then going to have his 2 best friends be his attendants, but his mother asked him to include his brother, who he had (correctly) assumed wouldn't care whether or not he was involved. So now we both have 3 attendants, but one of mine is a 10-year-old girl. Would it be weird/creepy to have one of the 25y.o.-ish guys walk with her? If so, what should I do--have my niece walk by herself and have one of my BMs walk with 2 groomsmen? We of course have the option of cutting one of his friends out (he hasn't asked them yet, and the one we'd eliminate could actually be our ceremony musician), but I don't think he really wants to do that. Thanks!!!

mbcdefg

It's a 30-second walk down the aisle, not a date. Nobody will assume that your adult groomsman is a pedophile or that it's creepy. It's a formal event and he's her escort. That doesn't mean they're going to go make out later. Of course, the niece can walk solo if you wish. No problem with that. It's not really *necessary* (see above), but that's a matter of personal preference. She's a bridesmaid just like the other girls ... she's doing everything an adult BM has to do (wear dress, stand during ceremony, smile for pictures) so the "Junior" title really isn't necessary.Cutting a friend out of the bridal party would be incredibly rude, and totally unnecessary. The numbers do NOT need to match, and you don't need people to be perfectly paired up. Pick the people you want, don't worry about numbers and symmetry and ages, and you will be just fine.

kmmssg

Not a thing creepy about that.  don't cut anyone out and don't worry about what someone may think.  It is nothingmore than a gentleman escorting a young lady down the aisle.  This is, however, a great reason to spare your guests the torture of a bridal party dance......

trix1223

You're overthinking this. No one, NO ONE, at your wedding is going to assume that your niece and your FBIL are a couple because they walk up the aisle at a then end of a wedding ceremony. Let this one go.

ffmaid

There is nothing creepy about a 10 year old walking next to a 25 year old. It is not like anything untoward is going to happen they are going to walk for a minute next to one another no big deal

kate8987

I'm kind of in the same situation. Fi's gm are his two brothers who are in their 20's (and both already married), my bm are my two sisters who will be 17 and 9 at the wedding. I'm planning on them just walking side by side back down the aisle (no arm holding just walking).

trix1223

Kate, I have to say that I think having them walk side by side rather than with the GM offering his arm to the BM would look still and uncomfortable.Seriously, have none of you ever been in a wedding where you didn't know the GM you were paired with?  It's NOT like they're hooking up for a sexual romp in the back of the church.They're walking for 20 seconds up the aisle at the end.  You all are really seriously overthinking this.

kebmtm071605

MH's nieces were BMs in our wedding.  They were 12 and 15 at the time.  They were escorted by GM (all in their mid 30's), and it didn't look awkward at all.

MrsCanes511

I have sorta the same situation, my maid of honor is my little sis, at 13. we have four bridesmaids and three groomsmen. (she would be walking with the BM who is 28) Obviously theres nothing at all wrong with it if they walk down together, but I agree with the just odd factor. What we have decided to do is to have the groomsmen all walk down alone right before the Groom, and then the bridesmaids and me. Then when they walk back we'll just have them walk together, no big deal.