Bridesmaid Colors - Red shoes? Long-ish

Meganap

I'm one of six bridesmaids and our bride has given us only one instruction, and that is to wear a black dress. She's pretty laid back and wants us all to be comfortable and doesn't want us spending money on something we wouldn't wear again. That said, she gave no instructions on shoes. I assumed I'd do a black shoe with a modest heel. The bride and I went shopping to find a bridesmaid dress for myself and I ended up also finding a pair of red heels that I loved and were surprisingly super comfortable. The bride liked them and encouraged me to buy them, so I did. The problem is that I'm feeling unsure about wearing a black dress with a red heel. The wedding colors are purple, black, silver, turquoise, and white.. I figure I should stay within these guidelines. Honestly, I don't think the bride cares (she's wearing zebra print pumps, but then again her gown will mostly cover them), but I don't want to stick out as the weirdo if the other brides are wearing more subdued or traditional colors. This is the shoe: http://cn1.kaboodle.com/hi/img/c/0/0/1c/e/AAAADOSndGAAAAAAABzkwQ.jpg They're not really shiny in real life like the picture shows, but the heel is not insignificant and hello, bright red! The dress I cannot find online, but it's a very simple dress by Maggy London with a v-neck and cap sleeves... it's a matte black and the fabric is gathered under the bust.

Meganap

The link keeps screwing up no matter how many times I fix it and repost... remove the from it and it'll work.

peachkins

It really comes down to what you feel comfortable wearing.  Since the bride doesn't care, it's totally your decision.  FWIW, I think the red heel with the black dress is a cute idea, but I do see why you're hesitant.  Honestly, I doubt people are going to notice what shoes everyone's wearing, but if you think you'll be that uncomfortable with your choice then go for something else.  Personally, I would go with silver shoes, but that's because I already have a pair of them in my closet.

gottahavashorti

Is it something like this? [url]http://tinyurl.com/ydltren[/url]See if the other girls are wearing colored shoes as well.  If you can't, just toss your go to black or silver heels in your car.  You can change them there if everyone else is in subdued colors and you think you'll be uncomfortable.

trix1223

Here's your reality check moment:  think back to the last 6 weddings you've attended.  What were the bridesmaids wearing on their feet?I'll bet you can't really remember.  That's because people don't really care.  It's just not that big a deal.If your friend has said she doesn't care, then go ahead and wear the shoes if you like them.  (I personally love colored shoes with a black dress!)

mbcdefg

If the bride OK'ed it, then you're in the clear. However, if I were in the same situation, I think I'd be more comfortable talking to the other BMs before the wedding and letting them know about my idea. Just so they didn't think I was trying to stand out from them, or so give them a heads-up that the bride is OK with colored shoes so that they can get their own if they wish. Or maybe ask the bride, "Do the other BMs know they can wear colored shoes? It's such a fun idea and you're so nice to let us wear whatever we want. Maybe they'd also like to get in on this!" Or like PP said, bring along both the red pair and a black pair and make a game-day decision once you see what the other girls have.

Meganap

Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. @peachkins - I was thinking silver as well, if I wasn't going to go with the red. I just dont have any 'go-to' black or silver shoes because I almost never wear heels... I don't really own any. @gottahavashorti - It's close to that, but is more like this: http://tinyurl.com/ydcddvd except it's not satin, so it's a matte black, and the area under the bust is a little different. The shape and length of the dress is the same though. @trix1223 - I've never been to or in a wedding so I have no idea what people wear. @mbcdefg - I only know one of the bridesmaids and have asked her, but she isn't sure what shoes she's going to wear either. I think you guys are right, if the bride OK'd it there's no reason for me to doubt this. I just need to get over it!