How do I ask...

pham-plueger

My wedding party is ALL over! My sister, of course, will be the maid of honor, but she is in Berkeley so she won't be able to help much. I have another BM in Orange County, one in LA and another in San Francisco, haha. Do I need to go to each city and ask them in person or is there another intimate but easier way to ask? I don't want to do it over email for sure... Phone seems alright, but just not as special. Any tips?

LarissaAnn

I didn't even ask my sister, it was just understood she'd be my MOH. I called the other 3 - one in northern NJ, one in central NJ, one in NYC.

pham-plueger

Letters - why didn't I think of that? Great idea Thanks so much!

trix1223

Just remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.  With a phone call you can hear an immediate (excitred) reaction.  With a letter-you hope it's delivered!  Just keep in mind that letters sometimes get lost in transit, or get delivered later than you expect!I've heard on this board of situations where someone got angry because there was no response, when in reality, the girl had never received the letter asking her to be in the WP.  There were some huge hurt feelings until it all got sorted out.GL

banana468

I just asked via phone call or face to face - whatever worked for my situation with the WP member.  As Trix said, I went for the honor of asking but not in how.

aerinpegadrak

Hell, my MOH and I asked each other to be in our weddings via text message while I was at work.  (I later asked her to be MOH in person.)  I didn't ask my sisters at all, it was just understood that they'd be in it.  I don't recall them asking me to be in their weddings either, it just happened.I like the letter idea.  There are those cheesy "will you be my bridesmaid?" cards, but I think I would appreciate getting a heartfelt letter more.

melishka716

This is something for you to decide. I just picked up the phone and it was fine.Maybe send them a letter with a small personal gift??

bablingbrooke

Phone is special. I asked all my BMs over the phone--I live in Boston and the BMs were in the bay area, LA, and Santa Barbara. The honor was in BEING asked, not in HOW they were asked. There was still excitement and tears and happiness.

stina93446

I would just call. Cheaper and quicker.

tiffgriffin7

I just called mine and they all seemed like it was still pretty special. You also don't have to worry about them finding out at different times if they are all friends too.