Unique Way to Ask

pinkshoegirl

PLEASE say you guys have some very cool, unique ideas! I am just stumped by how to ask my Maid of Honor and my Bridesmaids to be in my wedding.  A few of them do live out of town, so i would have to mail them something... no problem.  But i don't want to spend too much money, i am looking for something unique rather than pricey! ANY ideas or suggestions would be SO SO SO SO WONDERFUL!!

blackfire5th

This may not be what you are looking for, but I just called mine. I lived in an entirely different state from all of my bm and I called them and asked them to stand up with me at my wedding. I know it isn't cutesy, but I will never forget their reactions and their excitement. You would miss that initial reaction if you sent them a card or a letter.

swim1011

I agree with the PP, but if you do want to send something, maybe try making your own card (if you're crafty) to ask them.  The girls on DIY have some great ideas.  Or, I always liked the little cookies that you can send (usually dress shaped, and come with a little card, or ask on the cookie if they want to be a MOH/ BM), but that could get expensive, depending on how many BMs you have. 

trix1223

Probably not what you want to hear, but remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked. Being asked to be a BM in your wedding WILL be special, because you're asking someone you love to stand with YOU on your wedding day. That makes it unique. In the coming months, you are going to overwhelmed with people doing their very best to convince you that unless you buy "thus and so" your wedding won't be creative, unique, memorable, special, different, wonderful, or personal. Don't buy into it-literally or figuratively. Your wedding WILL be wonderful and unique because it's about you and your FI, and that alone is plenty. Call your friends and ask. Take them out for a cup of coffee or a drink and ask. They'll love it, and they won't need a knick-knack to remember the day you asked them to join you on your wedding day.

bablingbrooke

You don't have to turn everything wedding-related into a big deal or ceremony. Simple really is best. Your friends won't care how they are asked, just that they ARE asked. I asked all of mine over the phone. It wasn't any less special for it. If you're stumped on a "creative" or "unique" way to ask them, take it as a sign.

tiffspff

I'm with blackfire... my girls are all in different states and I called them.

CTGirl30

I recently came to the conclusion myself that when it comes to this sort of thing, simple really is best. (In fact, my post had that title...). But it's true - I drove myself nuts wondering how to ask and in the end, deciding it was too much unneccessary stress and I just asked each person individually over dinner. (There was still plenty of exictment and hugging and celebratory happiness that ensued).  Now, of course, that's easy to do when you live in the same state! For your friends who live out of town, how about a phone call? I still remember, almost 10 years later, the conversation during the phone call from my cousin (who lives on the opposite coast) when she asked me to be in her wedding. I was so touched that she had called me to ask me.Ditto pp's on the fact that wedding planning can be very stressful - if you let it be. Or, you can decide you don't need to buy into the notion that wedding related things need to be elaborate to be meaningful...up to you, of course. If you would still like to send something to your friends rather than call or do it in person, you could always create a photo card or write them a letter. Short of skywriting out a WILL YOU BE MY BM? message, I don't know what's out there that's super cool / unique...

mia5784

I sent mine bridesmaid survival kits and MOH survival kit. They LOVED them. I put waterproof mascara, earplugs, bobby pins, band-aids, nail file, notepads, asprin etc. and then attached a really cute note asking them if they would stand beside me when I marry my best friend. It was cheap and creative. GL!!!

mbcdefg

I asked my sister at my parents' house during a visit. I asked my friend when we were eating at a diner together. (I may have paid for the meal as a "thank you for accepting" gesture, but I forget).

ffmaid

The nicest tghing you can do in my opinion is to talk to them in person if local and call them if oot and ask. Cards /flowers/ect are all fine and dandy but much much much less special and much then sincere then calling and saying that you love them and really want them to be your BM/MOh ect.

pinkshoegirl

OK i love you guys!!!  Seriously. You just made me feel a million times better.  I think you are ALL so right in EVERYTHING not needing to be this big special creative thing.  I am loving the BM kit ideas though... so maybe i'll do that for them once they accept & spend my money there! Babling Brooke - your right... IT IS A SIGN. I have been going all over the place mentally & physically trying to find some cutesy thing to jump out at me..... when really, that's not so much who i am, so maybe the simplicity (more so of who i am) of a phone call, lunch or drinks is it. Thank you SO MUCH. I think i can sleep tonight. Really.

jesslikewhoa

Hire a skywriter.

bushgroupie98

If you want to make it a little special and not pricey do what I did.  I simply bought some card stock and made my own cards with just a small paragraph to each girl on how much she has meant to me, along with a personal experience or expression that we have shared.  And to wind it into asking them to be in the wedding I simply stated something like, "Thank you for being there since the beginning I would love for you to stand with me as a bridesmaid as we make it forever" something along those lines.  All of my girls were very flattered in this expression, and it barley cost anything!  Good luck and have fun with it, its so great to know that your closest friends and family will be up there to support you!