What color should hostesses wear?

micheaux

My bridal party will be wearing the David's bridal color Terracotta which is the same color as Bill Levkoff's Euro Terracotta (more than likely their dresses will be from Bill and the material will be Taffeta). What color should the hostesses wear ? It was suggested that they should/could wear the David's bridal color Clover, but I'm really not feeling Clover color. Clover is going to be an accent in my flower arrangements but I don't think its the best color for the hostesses to wear. Any thoughts on colors ? Oh my accent color is Silver. thanks   

trix1223

What are hostesses?

banana468

If the hostesses are not in the bridal party (what do they do?) then they wear whatever they please.

kmmssg

As soon as I saw the term hostess I wondered if you were a Michigan bride.  Hostesses are pretty regional and not well known. To answer your question, they wear what they want, no special color, and please don't ask them to buy a special color. 

aerinpegadrak

I was a hostess/guestbook attendant/whatever at a friend's wedding this summer.  Her bridesmaids were in pink dresses with a yellow sash.  I wore a brown dress (which I had previously worn in my sister's wedding) with a pink sash.Let them wear something they already have, and give them a sash/wrap/jewelry to tie them in to the rest of the party.

ffmaid

You should allow the hostesses to wear whatever color and outfits they would like to wear. They are not part of teh wedding party so you get 0 say in their attire. Get them corsages and huge thank you gifts for being your servants rather then having fun at ayour reception

banana468

ffmaid, kmmssg already clarified that this is a Michigan custom that is celebrated.

ffmaid

I have also seen them in the midwest IN,IL, and yes michigan be folks who basically have to serve the punch cut and serve the cake , refill the buffet ., tidy up things, bartend, and spend the whole reception doing what the caterers shoudl be hired to do. So although they may be considered an honor to some I have only ever heard of it and seen it as a massive massive favor of basically doing all the unpaid work of the wedding for the bride out of love for someone who is to cheap to hire help. In each case that I have seen it the hostess were aunts cousins and close friends and in each case the bride said it was an honor and the hostesses by the end of the reception were grumbling about how it was a pain in the neck not an honor. So maybe this is hostess ie wear a corsage and maybe this is hostess/waitstaff until the Op clarifies I am going to go with the only thing I have ever seen

banana468

The one thing that comes back to be frustrating is when people make assumptions.Don't assume the worst until the OP clarifies.  It's assuming the worst that can cause this board to turn into an ugly place.

ffmaid

I am not assuming the worst I am assuming exactly the reality of what I have seen multiple times. If hostess is an honor I have never seen that despite seeing hostess several times on this board and real life. It has always on this board and in real life been a task not an honor that I have seen. Sorta like a base my answers on bridesmaids on being a bridesmaid and flower girls on being a flowergirl or groomsmaid on being a groomsmaid on guest book attendant on having been stuck as a guest book attendant, I base my opinion of hostess on having been a hostess and having seen hostess in weddings.

micheaux

thanks banana I totally agree ! I simply asked a question. It was not up for debate as to what I should/shouldnt have my hostesses wear. Yes I'm from MI and I will ask my local board ! As far as what my hostesses will be doing: they will not be servants at some cheap low class wedding they will assist guest to the escort cards pass out programs etc. Since my wedding will be nice and is formal they have no issues with purchasing a dress. Thank you to the knottie(s) that did answer my question and please google the internationally used word 'hostess' for a definition.

swans alive

I think this is one place where having an international board can be tough. Things vary SO much regionally that it can be hard (in some cases, not all) to figure out when someone is being rude and/or when they're just following regional tradition. Those two things are not mutually exclusive, by the way. If OP's friends are used to and expect the hostesses at weddings, then they will not think it's at all weird. Might even be weirder to them NOT to have hostesses, I don't know. From a color perspective, I'm not sure I dig the Terracotta mixed with the Clover. It's a little...off to me, and I can't quite explain why. Maybe a slightly darker green?

swans alive

Though please do consider PP's posts to let them wear what they want -- no matter what the role in the wedding party, it is always nice to let them have say in their appearance.

mbcdefg

I would just tell them your color scheme and let them decide amongst themselves. If they're not bridesmaids then IMO it's not fair to ask them to buy a very specific dress (especially one that would need to be ordered, waited on and then altered like a regular BM dress). Or just ask them to wear black, silver or brown dresses of their choice, since those are easy to get anywhere. If they are O.K. with you picking the color of their outfits, then I would choose something that they could find in a department store. Not something that'd need to be ordered from a BM dress designer.