How to ask long distance BM

musola01

Hi-I'm getting married in 11 months and haven't done too much planning yet. My fiancee and I have decided on who will be our BM and GM. All of my bridesmaids live all over the country so I can't ask them in person.How do I ask my ladies to be in my party creatively since I won't be able to ask in person? Thanks!

mbcdefg

Call them, or send them a heartfelt note. They'll just be honored to be asked. You don't need to come up with something cutesy. I just asked both my BMs in a regular manner - my sister at my parents' house, and my friend at a diner.

trix1223

first of all, you have a fiance, not a fiancee.Remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.  Your friend will be just as thrilled to get a phone call from you as she will some "creative" way to ask.The wedding industry is going to do its best in the coming 11 months to convince you that you must spend money on {fill in the multitude of overpriced, unnecessary items here} or your wedding won't be unique, memorable, creative, clever, different, special.Your wedding will be unique, memorable, creative, clever, different, AND special because it's yours.  Not because you bought cookies in the shape of a bridesmaid dress to ask a friend to stand with you on one of the very important days of your life.Enjoy your planning.  Call and ask your friend.  She'll love it~ promise.

junelley

I asked my long distance MOH and BM over the phone.  The MOH one I asked when I told her I was engaged.  I just couldn't help myself - I was too excited and KNEW that I wanted her to be my MOH.  The BM I waited 4 months after engagement to ask.  I was going to send her a card asking her, but she was so excited for me over the phone many times asking me if she could do anything to help that one day I just couldn't keep it in and asked her over the phone anyway.  Both times were very emotion for us and to me, it was special enough.  I am also sending them personlized card now, even though I've already asked them.  I don't think I have to, but I want to.  I thought it might also be a nice keepsake.  I agree with pp; you don't need to do anything so unique or different to ask long distance BMs, as long as you are sincere, your long distance bridal party will be equally thrilled.Good luck!

banana468

I'd just make phone calls.  They can be very heartfelt and personal.

cekdancer

Im going through that same thing too. I have one BM that is from out of town. I thought about calling her but I think Im going to send her a card or make a little card. Nothing expensive maybe $1 or $2.

[Deleted User]

I live across the Atlantic from my BM. I asked them all visa email, I sent a someecard. It was funny and fitting to me and them. But really it's not that big of a deal. How many times have you heard someone ask how a bride asked them to be a BM?

PinkFootball

I mailed a cute top ten card!

tiffspff

I asked over the phone.