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felaney · October 2009

the person who helps the bride with her dress down the aisle?I don't think I've ever posted on here before but I am wondering how to include my FI's little cousin in the ceremony. She really wants to be a part of the wedding but is too old to be a flower girl and too young to be a junior bridesmaid. She has already been an aisle runner in FI's brother's wedding so I was thinking she would enjoy being the person who helps carry the bride's train down the aisle.I'm not sure what we would list that as in the program. Thank you!

tidetravel · October 2009

Brideslave? That's not an honor - it's a job. Either include her in the wedding party or don't, but don't make up titles/jobs for people. Lat time I checked, there were no age limits on wedding party members.

tidetravel · October 2009

It's ok Stage

I think it's one thing if the kid WANTS to do it, but the way OP sounded, it was like she was trying to "fit the kid in somewhere" because there wasn't any place else. I fail to see what age the child is that she doesn't "fit" as either a flower girl or a Jr. Bridesmaid

felaney · October 2009

I did it in my aunt's wedding, I felt honored to be a part of it. She's 9 and feels uncomfortable being a flower girl or a bridesmaid but wants to be included in the ceremony. If you see it as a job, fine. She would like a "job."

jeannigirl · October 2009

I don't see no harm in that, if she wants to do something like that and it excites her then def do it.

Simply Fated · October 2009

A page..... maybe you could call her a bridal attendant? I mean, usually bridal attendants do more than just carry the train down the aisle, but I think that title might be a sweet gesture. I just think bridal attendant sounds better than page for young girls, I dunno why. Like, the word page just sounds blunt and obvious, while bridal attendant sounds more important and glorious... I can't explain it, sorry. It makes sense in my head though. :)And, yeah, depending on the age, she might get a huge kick out of doing something like that. To some it might seem like menial labor, but to others it can be a treat. you can always just ask her and see what she wants. There are really no cut-off ages for flower girls and bridesmaids (junior or otherwise) so if she would prefer one of those positions, then why not let her have that position? It's up to you, of course, but I always suggest talking it over with the person, if it's negotiable.

isufans4ever · October 2009

How young is too young to be a junior bridesmaid? Mine is going to be 9

banana468 · October 2009

Ditto PP - but make sure it's something that she actually wants to do. She's been an aisle runner? The image of her laying down so people can walk on her is making me laugh at my desk. :-) When I was younger, I was a reader and was really touched to be one.

mikesboo23 · October 2009

banana, I was thinking the same thing about the aisle runner.

felaney · October 2009

Haha I don't know what you would call it- the aisle runner runner? The aisle runner layer-downer? My bad on the wording- she was titled aisle runner in that wedding- I never thought of how it sounded haha.She doesn't want to be a flower girl or a junior bridesmaid because she feels awkward. The other flower girl is 3 and the other junior bridesmaid is 12. If she wanted one of those positions she could certainly have it but she doesnt like the age difference.She still wants to be in the ceremony. I like the bridal attendant title as well.

Thanks!

felaney · October 2009

isufans4ever- personally, I think it depends on their comfort level, I don't think there are definite age cut-offs for a junior bridesmaid.

megk8oz · October 2009

I would just ask her what she wants to do if she doesn't want to be a flower girl, and then make up a title that sounds good from there. Just make sure she wants to do whatever role she plays. If she doesn't like the idea of carrying the train, there's always being a reader. If you're doing a Catholic ceremony she can be a gift-giver. I have no idea what it called, but I know there's this thing people do with pouring sand, she might enjoy doing that. I'm not sure how old she is, but if you can trust her with a candle (Or if somebody helps her with this) she could always help light the unity candle. Also, if she liked being an aisle runner last time (I have no clue what they're actually called), you can let her do that again. There's no rule saying you can't do the same thing twice ... otherwise, I'm sure there are millions of women out there that wouldn't have nearly as many BM horror stories to tell, haha.

trix1223 · October 2009

train bearer?

aerinpegadrak · October 2009

If you want something more fanciful, maybe "lady in waiting?"

blackfire5th · October 2009

I found this through google Ring Bearer or Train BearerIt is not necessary to have either a ring or train bearer. However if you do know one or two cute little boys who are about four or five, you may want them to take part. The ring bearer or train bearer may also be a little girl! If so, she should be dressed the same as the flower girl. The duties of the Ring Bearer are to carry the ring or rings tied by a ribbon on a satin or lacey pillow. The Ring Bearer may walk alone or with the flower girl, but precedes the bride. The Train Bearer carries the bridal gown train, following the bride.

banana468 · October 2009

I like train bearer better than aisle runner runner. Saying aisle runner runner sounds like it's from the Department of Redundancy Department.

Simply Fated · October 2009

oooh, "Lady in Waiting" sounds nice, too!

tiffgriffin7 · October 2009

I did that in a family friend's wedding when I was about 10 or 11 and I loved it! It was just enough involvement and I felt very honored. I think I was an attendant but I honestly don't remember and I doubt she will too.

tiffgriffin7 · October 2009

Honestly, page and lady-in-waiting sound odd to me. Way to old-fashioned or something. A little girl probably doesn't even know what a page is. Train bearer also sounds strange b/c she isn't bearing your train right??? I vote for attendant.

Simply Fated · October 2009

To me, the title page evokes images of little boys delivering messages from the king to the noblemen. That might be an old-fashioned image, but it's the truth.

felaney · October 2009

P.S. I was totally joking about the aisle runner runner... that would look like a typo in the program and it just sounds silly. It's not a long train so she would just hold it as I started to walk down and then follow my dad and I. FI's mother feels she would absolutely love it, I just wanted to find out a title before I asked her. Thanks everyone!