Hair Makeup Mani Pedi?

SPadak

Hello,I have a small wedding party of three and I am assuming that most will be getting a manicure and pedicure. I would like for everyone to get their hair and makeup done as well but, I dont think I can afford to pay for everyone to get everything done. I would like to pay for the manicure and pedicure as a gift to my bridesmaids but it seems unfair to call that a gift when its what I would LIKE them to do. Do I drop the hair and makeup if I cant afford it? HELP

peachkins

If you want them to get their hair and makeup professionally done, you need to pay for it.  If you can't afford to pay for it, then let them do their own.  You could always give them the option of getting it done and just let them know that the cost is on them if they would like it done.  That's what I'm doing with my BMs, and all but one of them are having it done anyway.  Again, if you are requiring them to get a mani/pedi for the wedding, you need to pay for it.  However, if you're just figuring they would like one, I think it's acceptable to get that for them as part of your gift.  I personally look at something like that as more of a pampering thing that I would enjoy than a necessity.

banana468

I don't think it's really fair to say that the Mani pedis are your gift since it's required. Relax a bit. Tell your BMs that you're getting a mani pedi at x date and time and if they want to join you then the cost is x. Ditto fir hair and makeup. You may even find that the BMs are more inclined to do stuff since you're so low key about it.

tiffgriffin7

I agree with pp. If you are requiring them to do those, you should pay for it. I like the idea of setting up times for those things and letting them know how much it will be, so it is more like a fun/group activity.

blackfire5th

Personally I have never noticed an attendants nails. I do notice their hair, so if you are worried about everyone looking nice and can only pay for one thing, I would pay for hair. I didn't mention anything about manis/pedis. Some of my girls did them on their own, some didn't. I told them all that I would pay for their hair, but it wasn't required. I also told them that I was getting my make up prof. done, but that I couldn't afford to pay for everyone and it was x dollars and to let me know by x date if you would like to have it done.

mbcdefg

You can't require anything (beyond their dresses and alterations) that you don't plan to pay for. If you want to treat them to something that they would've wanted to do on their own anyway, then that is nice. But you're not required to. But you're correct ... if you're telling them that they need to get manis/pedis done, then it's not a gift, even if you pay for it.

megk8oz

You can LIKE for them to do it all you want, but aside from the dress and shoes, you really can't expect them to pick up the tab on anything else.There is however, nothing wrong w/ telling everybody when and where you making your own appointments and giving them an estimated cost if they care to join you.

bablingbrooke

If you can't afford it, you can't require it. You can certainly say "I have a girl coming over to do hair/makeup and she costs $X" and then let them decide. FWIW, 2 of my BMs chose to get their hair professionally done and 2 did thier own. You really can't tell which ones they are in the photos.

tiffspff

My MoH and a good friend went with me to get my nails done,b ecause no one else was interested. My mom paid for my bridesmaids to get their hair done, and everyone opted to go to the salon because of convenience. I didn't have a makeup artist so that wasn't even an option. Everyone did their own. And everyone looked beautiful. I agree with the previous post though... hair is the most noticeable to guests.

duckie1905

I would never get a mani/pedi, even if a bride required it.  I hate them and I hate people touching my feet, so keep that in mind.Just as the others said, you can want them to do these things all you want but unless you are prepared to shell out the cash then you can't require anything.I have never noticed a BMs nails.  I have also never really noticed or cared to decide who had professionally done hair/makeup and who did not.And, even if you do pay, you must realize that some of the girls still may not to want to it so don't force them.  It won't be the end of the world.  They may have their own stylist they want to use, they may prefer to do it themselves (personally, I don't like having my makeup done because I don't like the idea of sharing makeup with 1,000 of other people), or they may plain just not want to deal with it.

ffmaid

Anything you require or so strongly encourage that they woudl feel like they are letting you down if they say no you have to pay for.

mags0607

As long as all three of your bridesmaids are mani/pedi people, I don't see it as wrong to gift it to them before your wedding. That being said, if you have a bridesmaid you know will hate it, maybe rethink your plan. My friend whose wedding I was in, booked a block at one of the local nail places for her bridal party the day before the wedding. She treated the BMs and two moms to mani/pedi and brought in wine and refreshments. It turned out to be more of a relaxing bonding time than her requiring us to have nails and feet done. Not sure if this is something you are financially able to take on, but if it is and you can find a small place that will participate it might make it seem like less of a requirement and more of something to pamper and say thank you to your bridal party. I agree with pp on the hair and makeup. Let them know what you are doing and the price and if they want to oin in, then great. If not, then just don't worry about it. Noone at the wedding will know the difference anyway.

SPadak

Thanks everyone for the advice! Everyone wanted to get a manicure and pedicure so I am paying for that. I let them know the prices for hair and makeup and left it up to them whether they wanted to do that or not. No one seems offended which is good! Thanks again