FG and RB

MidniteSun383

My FI and I will have 5 nieces and nephews by the time we are married.  My FBIL just had a boy in July and I just found out the my SIL is due within a week of our wedding (so excited!)  Even though the two little ones obviously can't walk down the aisle, can I put them in the program as FG and RB?  I'd like to include the whole family, since they're all so important to us.

ffmaid

I think listing people in the program who are not in the wedding as in the wedding is silly. Actually there is a very good chance they will not even be attending the wedding. Not everyone needs to be in the WP to be included. My family has a tradition that the bride and groom takes a formal picture with each generation . So you would take a formal picture with just you and groom and the 5 neices and neophews. To me that is including a one week or a few month old plenty .

mbcdefg

You CAN if you want. I personally don't think it's necessary (people will understand that you can't possibly expect babies to participate the way older kids can), but if it makes you all happy then go for it. Like ffmaid said, I think including the five kids in a nice family photo is plenty. But your call for the programs. If people take offense to the babies not being in the program I think that's silly, but if it keeps the peace then do it.

bablingbrooke

I guess I don't see the point. They won't know the difference, and the parents won't expect it. I don't see any harm in it, but again, I don't see the point. Why not just list them as family in the program? People do that. Say something like "Midnite and Midnite's FI would like to thank and recognize their family for all their love and support" and then list everyone.

goheels05

I think it's silly and unnecessary.  JMO. I'd like to include the whole family, since they're all so important to us.Then do something that benefits them, not you.  Something unrelated to the wedding.  The purpose of a wedding is to marry the man with whom you intend to spend the rest of your life, not including/honoring random family members.  That's what their baby showers are for.

trix1223

Another who agrees with the others. I'm of the opinion that if a person can't tell you, themselves, with words, why they're in a wedding party, and what they have to do that day, they're just too young to be in it. The babies won't know they're not in the WP. Their feelings won't be hurt. I can't imagine that their parents will take offense. It just seems terribly, terribly unneccessary to me to list them in the program.

banana468

I have to echo PPs as well. 

stina93446

I don't think you should. It may confuse people and honestly, save the "honor" for your older kids that are going to do it already. There will be plenty of other opportunities for these babies. And plus, with a due date so close to the wedding, these people and babies may not even be coming to the wedding.

emilykathleen511

I guess I'm going to partially disagree. I have two nieces and two nephews. My older niece and nephew are going to be the RB and FG. The younger two are not. They will be listed in the program as such: Lil' Cuties Flower Girl, Emma Smith........Niece of Bride Ring Bearer, Carter Jones......Nephew of Bride Ava Smith...............................Niece of Bride Ashton Jones..........................Nephew of Bride (not their real last names) But really, any kids job in a wedding is to look cute. The older kids will have a couple of additional duties, which I indicated through their titles, but really any kids in a wedding are really about being cute...so yeah...that's my philosophy.