Dress Dilemma - please help!

ashnick48

So I got my dress and I LOVE it...it is a creamy color that they refer to as "champagne" and it is gorgeous! I will be wearing pearl jewelery, with maybe a little bling (i.e. CZ or crystal.)While trying on my dress when it came in, my maid of honor and I found a bridesmaid dress that we love. It is burgundy, knee length and it has very subtle silver and burgundy beading just under the bust. Myself and all the girls LOVE it!And now here is the dilemma. Long story short, I thought the beading was going to be gold and loved the idea of gold shoes. Now, I have narrowed my options down to silver or dyed burgundy shoes (which I know is not a popular option.)The thing is, our invitations/placecards/table numbers, etc. are all based around our color scheme of burgundy, chocolate brown and ivory...and my dress is a creamy, champagne color. Will silver shoes clash and throw everything off?I know I am probably overthinking this (and being a typical bride!) but I really appreciate your HONEST feedback. Thanks SO much!

aerinpegadrak

What color shoes were the bridesmaids wearing at the last five weddings you attended?Can't remember?  Didn't notice?  Neither will your guests.

ashnick48

That's a great point. In all honestly, all I remember is that they were all wearing different color shoes and that is one of my pet peeves and IMHO I don't like that. But you're right...people don't notice. Just ME!Thanks!

mbcdefg

The thing is, our invitations/placecards/table numbers, etc. are all based around our color scheme of burgundy, chocolate brown and ivory...and my dress is a creamy, champagne color. Will silver shoes clash and throw everything off?Please take a step back and read what you just wrote.

bablingbrooke

The thing is, our invitations/placecards/table numbers, etc. are all based around our color scheme of burgundy, chocolate brown and ivory...and my dress is a creamy, champagne color. Will silver shoes clash and throw everything off? It will ruin your entire wedding!!!!!! Step away from the bridal magazines! Now! This is SO not an issue. No one looks at the BM shoes, cares whether the colors of the stationery clash w/ the outfits, or anything of that nature. People care only about the following: Am I getting fed? Are they charging me to drink? Is this wedding any fun? And nothing more. Think: What's the WORST thing that could happen? I bet you can't think of anything.

ashnick48

mbcdefg: To your point, my dress is called champagne but it is really a creamy color that matches the ivory we are using with the stationery. I know it doesn't make any sense, but I promise you it works.bablingbrooke: I blame this all on the magazines...and the knot! JK. As other people have said, nobody else cares about the little details or will notice them except for ME!Thanks.

mbcdefg

I wasn't talking about the color of your dress. I was referring to you actually worrying about whether the BM's shoes will match the stationery. I'm not saying this in a mean way ... but do you seriously think that people care THAT much about whether your bridesmaids' shoes will match the paper products? Why on earth would anyone notice or care about that?

bablingbrooke

And here's something else they don't tell you: At the wedding, you're so busy/happy/drunk that you don't notice ANY details. I didn't know there were flowers at the church for our ceremony until they showed up at my MIL's house the next day and I mentioned how nice they looked, and she said "Yes, they're the ones from the altar."

ffmaid

You shoudl let your ladies wear any silver shoes of their shoice. For your personal shoes I would go gold with champange dress. Seriously BM shoes do not have to go with the decor in the least. Even if they did silver accents woudl look fine. Just a question Last 5 weddings you attended what shoes were the BM wearing? What was the color scheme I bet you can not say

banana468

How to spell relief?M-E-R-L-O-T!Or burgundy :-)Remember, NO ONE will notice the color of your BMs shoes and they certainly won't think, "It's a shame they clashed with the table cards."And BTW, the scheme won't clash either.  :-)

LarissaAnn

I spell relief P-I-N-O-T (either noir or grigio).

aerinpegadrak

You guys have weird dictionaries.  Relief is clearly spelled B-E-E-R.

banana468

There's a story behind the spelling.Roughly eight years ago or so, my mother had a co-teacher.  The two teachers worked in the same classroom and it was an effort to improve the students in the lower grades.She taught in a city where the students were NOT well behaved and even in the 1st grade (where the two were teachers) the students did not spell at all.On a particularly bad day, the co-teacher said, "How do you spell relief?  M-E-R-L-O-T!"