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I was just invited to a baby shower

that I can't possibly attend (on the other side of the country). And the mommy-to-be and hostess know it. Should I send a gift? Or just regrets? BTW they've registered at 3 different places for over 200 gifts. If I send anything, I'm tempted to just send the nipple pads and baby wipes.
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Re: I was just invited to a baby shower

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    Not required to send anything but if you feel the inkling, just send something in the $20-30 range.
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    Depends who it is. I was invited to my best friend's wife's baby shower in Colorado and didn't think anything of it. If it was anything less than my best friend, though, I'd squint at it. I send gifts anyway, though, the only difference is how much.
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    I totally feel like I'm being soaked for a gift. I was good friends w/ this girl in high school but haven't seen her in a couple years. I'll send something but nothing big and expensive, although that is making up a good chunk of the registries. Many, many things over $50 or even $100, very few under $20.
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    If you feel that way about the invite, send something teeny. Or nothing at all and just your regards/congrats!
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    I would send regrets, and instead of sending a gift send her a congratulations on the baby card.  Especially if its someone I wasn't close with in a loooong time, I wouldn't waste money on the gift and shipping costs
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    If you feel like they're looking for their friends to finance that baby then send regrets.However if you actually like the girl then send a tiny outfit. 
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    Send a gift its its somebody you would give a gift to. Like, if its some random aquaintance or distant cousin that you would ONLY gift "because its the right thing to do" ... then don't bother. Though I'm pretty shrewd when it comes to doling out gifts. I have to really like/love somebody to give them a gift.

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    Yeah, I'm an "it's the right thing to do" type.
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    For me, the right thing to do is to avoid sending shower invitations to a casual friend that you know can't attend.I find it, as retread said, a gift grab.  Send regrets and a lovely baby-to-be card.
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    I just gave my friend the invite list for my upcoming baby shower. Both sets of parents insisted that we send invites to OOT people (mostly family) even knowing that they probably won't be able to come. It killed me to do it, but in the end, it wasn't worth the fight. No random HS friends, though.
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    Regrets, and a nice card.  If you're not close enough that you haven't seen each other in a few years, then you're not close enough to send a present.  And definitely not an over $50 present, either.
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    You don't have to buy a gift just because someone sent you an invitation. Just send your regrets. If she sends you a birth announcement, a card and short note would be nice.  
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    Eh, I'll send the gift. The shower is being hosted by a mutual friend who I am still close with. The hostess is a great friend but would be burning in etiquette hell for more than a few things (numerous pampered chef "parties", passion party for her bachelorette, money dance at her wedding, head table w/o SOs, etc.). I just won't be as generous as I might be for a mommy-to-be who is still a close friend.
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    i would send regrets and send something once the baby is born, that way it's about the baby and not the party.  i agree it sounds like a gift invitation if they knew you couldn't come.  i'm not even inviting 1 of my bridesmaids to my shower because she's out of town and i know she couldn't come and i wouldn't want her to feel bad. however, there are some super-sensitive people who get their panties in a bunch if they don't get an invite... my FMIL feels that she has to invite EVERYONE or else they will be offended, even if she knows they can't make it.  do they possibly feel you might be that way and that's why they sent the invite?
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    No, especially considering I didn't even know the girl was pregnant until I got the shower invite.
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    you didn't even know she was pregnant?  then send the baby a cute onsie once it's born...
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