Any ideas???

jma1983

I have a habit of doing things by myself...both at work and in my personal life. I just take on more tasks and never delegate anything. My wedding will be in Dayton, OH. My bridesmaids are in Dayton, Columbus and Wisconsin. My maid of honor and mom are in Wisconsin. My bridesmaids in Columbus and Wisconsin keep asking what they can help with. But, I am at a complete loss. First of all, I'm so used to just doing stuff myself, that I haven't really asked anyone for help on anything. Second, I don't even know what I could possibly have them help with. Any ideas??? They obviously want to contribute more to the big day than just standing up...but, I don't know how I can have them do that.

mbcdefg

I also like to do things on my own ... because (a) I hate asking people to do things for me (even if they offer), and (b) I would rather have 100% control so that I don't need to deal with outside opinions and I can be assured of getting exactly what I want. So I hear what you're saying. It's really up to you. Since they volunteered to help, you could always send them photos of things you're considering - bouquets, accessories, etc. - and ask for their opinions. You coudl send them the menu choices and poll them on what you should pick for entrees or hors d'oeuvres. You could say, "I'm considering XX Reception Hall and YY Limo Company. Would you like to Google them and send me some reviews?"Or if you really don't need help with anything, just saying, "I'm good right now but I really appreciate the offer!" should work fine.

bablingbrooke

Just say for now you don't have anything but you'll let them know if things come up. And thank them for being such wonderful friends who keep offering

aerinpegadrak

If they offer to help with something, talk to them and see what they're up for.  Perhaps they can help you with making phone calls, or researching things online.  They can help you find inspiration pictures for your decorations and such.  (The internet is a beautiful thing.)  If there are any crafts that you might need help with beforehand, perhaps you can send them the supplies.  (My sister has offered to do this with my paper flowers.)If they want to plan any pre-parties for you, try to arrange to have everything on the same weekend so they only have to make one additional trip, and be understanding if people can't make it.Also, do wait for them to offer first.  It sounds like they're eager to help, but they'll be much more enthusiastic if they initiate it.

Leah&Christian09

For the BMs, tell them to find ideas for dresses.  They can look over the internet, and it will be something they're really interested in.  For your mom, put her on guest list duty.  Have her gather names of spouses and children for any family or family friends and have her update addresses.  If you're interested in heirlooms, you can also ask her to find her dress and see if there's a part of it you can use.  I wrapped my mother's lace around my bouquet, but you could use some of her buttons or her veil for something.

banana468

Woo hoo Dayton!  I have family that live there.  :-)I don't think you need to ask them to help with stuff however you can leave the door open if they want to come down to assist with things. 

Sunny0710

Are you making your own favours? If you have a chance to get together with any members of the BM, hanging our and making favours (and having a few glasses of wine!) can be a fun way to involve them and spend some time together. Sunny