Wedding colors and MOH, am I being unreasonable?

kaynix21

I agree with the other girls, she's being unreasonable and she's probably just jealous. Maybe it's the younger sibling syndrome or something...This is YOUR and FI's wedding. Not hers, your mom, his cousin, or anyone else's.If FI wants red, and so do you, do red!She can do red, or change her color when she is actually involved with someone and getting married!I would talk to her, if it were me.When I read your original post, I was going to say, it's like naming your child, it sucks if someone else had the same name in mind, but if you have a baby and you love that name, then there you go, but someone beat me to it.

ngiguere

She is being unreasonable. NOT YOU! You were in a relationship first, engaged first, and having your wedding first. 1. You can not possibly be "stealing her colors" you do not even get to HAVE a wedding plan and wedding colors before you're even engaged. You can't steal an idea that hasn't materialized yet and will not for an uncertain amount of time. 2. Nobody has a copyright on wedding color schemes. If one of my friends said "I love all the things you're doing with yellow. I think I may do yellow too..." I don't think I'd give a crap because it's not like I own all the rights to all things yellow. Other people may love yellow as much as I do, am I supposed to be angry about that? Ridiculous. Likewise, your sister does not OWN the color red. 3. She is acting like a jealous little brat. This is your big day. Judging by her behavior now, I'm guessing that when she DOES get married, if you so much as suggest that she was doing something offensive, she'd go totally horse S**t crazy on you. 4. This is YOUR day. Not hers. That means that you call the shots, whether she likes it or not. She does not have to make up her mind to enjoy your wedding, and you do not have to change for her. The only person that is going to truly suffer from acting like such a brat is her. You and your husband will, on the other hand, be able to enjoy your choices if you take her behavior with a grain of salt and ignore her. 5. She possibly needs to get laid. (Just sayin')

vszyman

OMG, I went through the EXACT SAME THING with one of my bridesmaids.  I hear your pain- I knew I was "in the right", but she was still annoyed, and you don't want ANY tension  (sometimes it's not fun to be right...you just want everyone to be happy).I just avoided bringing up the topic with her any further than absolutely necessary.  She definitely was irritated- and I did feel bad about it- annoyed at her for even being irritated... but it's gotten to a point where she seems to have realized how stupid she was about it, and seems even kind of excited that she'll be wearing a dress in the color she loves so much.  Maybe this will work for your sister???  Just talk about other stuff???Good luck!

Katsy1988

try talking to her. if that dosnt work just change the color scheme a bit. have your sister wear the red dress she wants and all your bms wear a diffrent color. she will get to stand out, which mite make her happy. and your not 'copying' her colors. i went through the same sorta. when my moh and I were 11 we were sitting around dreaming about our weddings (i was marrying nick carter from back street boys) and she said if she had a winter wedding she would have perrywinkle and silver. fast forward to now and im getting married this winter with colbalt blue tiffany blue and silver. she got all pissy with me for a few months because i was stealing her colors when she was getting married in the summer with pearl and turquoise! i just let her have her little rant and ignored it. plus theres a million shades of red. use a bunch of them so she cant say a word.

Katsy1988

or maybe she just lekes to complain... if she is being unreasonable and you have tried to accomidate her then im thinkin she is just the type thats not happy unless everyone is unhappy.