Usher attire

frmrsdghtr

Ok so my FMIL doesnt want to spend a whole lot of money on the wedding for tuxes. (this is one of the many fights) So what should my ushers wear. I think it would look ok to wear black slacks white shirts and maybe yellow or green ties(my colors) but then I have my mother saying that ushers need to wear tuxes. So i am stuck in the middle. Any ideas would be helpful. Thankyou

Leah&Christian09

I've never seen ushers wear a tux unless they were also GM.  Ours wore black slacks, I think.

SarahPLiz

Most of the ushers I've seen were just in slacks and a sport jacket.

aerinpegadrak

The ushers at my friend's wedding wore the same tuxes as the GMs, but it was also a very formal wedding.  Unless your wedding is ultra-formal, you could go either way.I will say that the slacks-dress shirt-tie combo, without a jacket, looks a little office drone-y.

bablingbrooke

My two 14 year old cousins were our ushers. While the GM and RB wore tuxes, they wore khakis, sport coats, and ties. They looked very nice--just formal enough to match everyone else but not so formal they were overdressed.

emilykathleen511

Every wedding that I've been to (within adult memory) the ushers have worn a tux...maybe it's regional? But, I think it could go either way. And why would your FMIL pay for the tuxes? Shouldn't the ushers being paying for those?

tidetravel

FMIL doesnt want to spend a whole lot of money on the wedding for tuxes. (this is one of the many fights)Why is this a fight?  If she's contributing money, she gets a say in how it's spent.  It is, after all, her money. If you don't like it, pay for the tuxes (and whatever else you're fighting about) yourselves.

gottahavashorti

Are the ushers your FBILs?  A suit, slacks & sports jacket, or whatever else they would be wearing otherwise are fine.  If you want to give them new ties & pocket squares or boutonnieres, go ahead.  I think I've only ever seen ushers in tuxes if they are also groomsmen.

mbcdefg

I would just ask them to wear a suit they already own, or slacks and a sports jacket. Buy them ties in your colors if you wish.

LarissaAnn

Why is your FMIL paying for the ushers' attire?

banana468

Is FMIL paying for the ushers?Is your wedding formal?If it isn't, the ushers can wear a suit of their choosing or even slacks and a sport jacket and be fine - they just need to match the formality of the wedding.

ffmaid

Ushers wear nice wedding guest attire. They are not groomsmen and thus you do not determine their attire. They dress for themseleves like readers and other people who are on the perifery of WP.

tiffspff

I'm agree with EmilyKathleen. I only remember a few weddings where ushers were not the groomsmen. However, in those few, they wore tuxes that matched the groomsmen. I think it might be a regional thing? I also agree, that FMIL should not be the one paying for them. And ultimately the ushers can wear anything, as long as they match the formality of the wedding.

lalap69

Why not ask your ushers?  They may want to wear tuxes.  However, I see nothing wrong with a nice black suit with a coordinating tie.

duckie1905

Our ushers wore tuxes.  Their vests and ties were a different color than the GMs.  It was also their decision and they opted to get tuxes.If you FMIL is paying then she gets to decide how her money is spent.

rainedrop6

I think that if someone is contributing money to your wedding they should definitely get a vote but not necessarily the absolute decision. No matter who's paying it's still the bride and groom's wedding and compromises should be made. If you and FMIL both feel that tuxes for the ushers aren't important I'd tell your mom how you feel and that you'd rather FMIL spent the money on something more important to you. If you decide you want them to wear tuxes, let FMIL know how important it is to you and ask her how you can help make it happen. Maybe by offering to help pay for it if you can afford it or try and cut the cost of something else she's paying for to help her stay within her budget.