Who needs to match? If anyone?

hklinger

This past weekend my fmil asked me what color my girls were wearing because she wants to match them. In my mind, she should wear a color that is not the same as the girls and wear a complimentary color. My mom already bought her dress and is wearing a color that compliments the girl's dresses. My FI's grandmother also wants to wear the same color. Thoughts?

hmonkey

just be glad they're all dressed.

bablingbrooke

If they want to match, let them match. If anyone else not in the WP wants to wear a teal sequined evening gown, that's their decision.

mbcdefg

Is this really something to spend time worrying about? Someone else's attire? If she asks what colors your BMs are wearing, tell her, and then let her pick out her own outfit. Easy peasy.

gottahavashorti

I really want to see the teal sequined gown.Don't worry about what color they wear too much.  Chances are, if they try to match, they'll end up in a different shade and end up coordinating with the WP instead of perfectly matching.

kikikatie9

In my opinion it doesn't really matter I'm sure no one will care and if they do oh well it's not gonna ruin your day. I say just tell them that they can wear whatever color they want.

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Tell her she should wear something that she feels beautiful in, not to worry about your colors.

jeannigirl

Your right they don't have to match however since she asked just tell her what colors you got going on and tell her whatever she feels beautiful in. (I like that)

banana468

I think it's fine to say, "Oh the girls are in X color but please don't feel obligated to match.  I'm sure you'll look great in any color."Sometimes people think that it's appropriate for the moms to match or coordinate with the wedding colors. 

junelley

I told my FMIL to buy whichever dress she wants to wear, and she insists on waiting for me to tell her what to wear....  I am not sure what she is waiting for now, as I am not planning on telling her what to wear.  I hope she realizes so before it's too late to order/buy a dress.

kmm2150

I just want to say that my DH ended up going shopping with his mom (adorable), and she was extremely appreciative.  Some women hear "wear whatever you want" and run with it, but some moms and fmil's out there are nervous, are shy, are afraid they'll be too dressy/too casual, and really just want your input to make them feel confident in making the choice.  Also, if they are voluntarily trying to wear something that will not hideously clash in you pictures - i.e., avoiding a bright fuschia and green dress when your wedding party is in chocolate brown with ivory or whatever - be GLAD, not irritated.  As far as her wanting to match, just tell her what the color of the dress is, and maybe you could throw in that, 'oh, and as an accent color we're using X, so if you have trouble finding something in the bm's color that you like, you could always go with the accent color if you still want to coordinate."