Pregnant MOH

mpogue

mbcdefg

Your gut reaction is the correct one. Don't replace your sister. Your family needs to realize that people are more important than numbers.

caymans_christy

I have a similar situation - DW and a BM who is due 5 days before the ceremony.  I would never think of replacing her (same for if my MOH was unable to attend).  I understand the disappointment - our DW has made planning a lot easier, but has brought some of the disappointment of people unable to attend. 

I like the idea of sending a bouquet of flowers to her in the hospital.  For my BM, we are sending a package before the wedding with her gifts that she would have gotten at the rehearsal dinner.  After the wedding I am going to be sending a package of goodies from the Caymans to show that we missed her and wished she had been there.

It might be nice to pick up some souvenirs from your destination for her and the new baby...

emilyinchile

Just for the record, the second paragraph was initially different and included the sentence I quoted in my post (and nothing about it being family suggesting this or a DW, it sounded like OP was thinking that she needed to have her MOH present on the day). Just so that my post makes sense.

If it's a DW, it seems likely that your sister won't make it, but I'm glad you're not going to replace her. And uneven wedding parties are totally ok.

mpogue

emily - i realized after re-reading my post that I didn't fully explain the situation (obvioulsy I couldnt type fast enough to keep up wiht my thoughts!) so I went back and edited my OP.  Sorry for the confusion!  Thanks again for your advice.  I was just being emotional since I just got the news and have decided to keep things as they are and hope that she can make it.  I really think it will work itself out. 

emilyinchile

No worries. I have definitely had to re-explain myself before when something that made sense in my head doesn't give the full picture I'm just glad that you seem relaxed about this!

trix1223

Trust your instincts.  Because they're correct.  You don't replace your sister.  Babies have their own timeline.  She might be at your wedding.  She might not be.  But whether she's standing there or not, she's your MOH.

And, congrats on being an auntie.  You're going to LOVE it~it's so much fun!

SocialWorker2B

I definitely think your instincts are correct. However, if she is 8 months along, don't most docs forbid flying? But, I would never replace my MOH if I was in this situation. That is insulting to her and to the BM who replaced her. Insults all around, not good.

If she can be there and stand up, then great. Personally, I wouldn't be able to stand so make sure she knows that sitting in the front row with the bouquet in hand is just fine with you.

If she can't come, I absolutely love the idea of sending the bouquet to her either at home or in the hospital. I also second bringing home some souveniers for mom and baby.

Kudos to you for being so calm. And, remember that as excited she is to be a mommy, she's also probably a bit sad too that she may not be able to be there.

GL with this! :-)