I'm not super big into various titles for everything but I want to make sure I use the correct terms in my program. Wasn't sure if this post belongs here or on the etiquette board so sorry in advance if I put it in the wrong place.
My BMs are my 14-year-old sister and my married friend, and my MOH will be my older sister (also married). I believe that in the programs I should list MOH as "Matron of Honor" since she's married. I have questions on the other two:
14-year-old: Would it be inappropriate for me to put her down as BM considering her age? I know people use the term Jr. BM for younger members of the WP but I didn't want her feeling like she's "less" of a BM. Obviously I would make sure that she has an age-appropriate dress but I wanted to make sure that in the program I give her the right title. (BTW I wouldn't expect her to throw me a shower or a b-party, or even attend the b-party if it turns out to be a more adult event; but I'm not expecting anyone to throw me a shower or b-party anyway).
Married friend: Do I call her a bridesmaid? From what I've heard "maid" is supposed to mean unmarried while "matron" is married (hence matron of honor) but I've never heard of the term bridesmatron before so I'm wondering which should I use?