I'm taller than him!

jburrelli

I'm 5'7, my fiance-to-be, is 5'4. I absolutely hate flats and wearing them at my wedding is not an option. He's comfortable with his height, as am I, but i don't really know what to do with a possible 8" height difference on the big day! The pictures will be, awkward unless i can get some ideas. And the ceremony will definately be a sight, but then again it's not a traditional affair by any stretch.  

SarahPLiz

Maybe not wear so tall of a heel. Right now there is only a 3" difference, so you'd have to be rocking some serious stripper heels to get to an 8" difference. (not saying you are a stripper, just how I categorize shoes).

Maybe have him wear a shoe with a little bit of a heel or platform on it.. no more than an inch, but something like a cowboy boot would raise him up some. I don't know other than that.

stina93446

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[QUOTE]I'm 5'7, my fiance-to-be, is 5'4. I absolutely hate flats and wearing them at my wedding is not an option. He's comfortable with his height, as am I, but i don't really know what to do with a possible 8" height difference on the big day! The pictures will be, awkward unless i can get some ideas. And the ceremony will definately be a sight, but then again it's not a traditional affair by any stretch.  
Posted by jburrelli[/QUOTE]
If you're comfortable with your heights, why should your wedding day be any different? Wear some 4 inch heels around him months before the wedding. Take candid shots. Or, how about wear 1 1/2 inch heels? Not every heel is 4 inches tall.

bablingbrooke

Unless you wear 5" heels, you won't have an 8" difference.

DH and I are 1" apart.  In regular shoes he's about 2 1/2" taller than me.  I wore shoes with a small heel and he was only about half an inch taller.  There are plenty of options in the 1-2" heel range that will look nice and not lead to a huge height difference.

Also, the photographer can position you with him on a higher step or in other ways so that it's not as noticeable.

bablingbrooke

Also, have some faith in your photographer.  I guarantee you they've seen this before.

aerinpegadrak

You're going to be 3ish inches taller than him for the rest of your lives.  MIght as well get used to the height difference in pictures, unless you want to graft stilts to his feet.

mbcdefg

Tall women?

What's next, women lawyers?

MyNameIsNot

I'm 3 inches taller than my DH.  I'm taller than him in every other picture, so why should our wedding be different?

I wore 2 inch heels.  I think it looks perfect.

ecuchika

Try going barefoot in some pictures.  Not only would it be cute but it would help with the height difference. I like what pp said about posing him on an incline. I would most def. suggest having a disscussion with your photog about your feelings on this issue.

mags0607

Your wedding date is about 4 ( 2014) years away. I would wait about 3 1/2 to start worryung about this. Wear small heels, talk to your photographer on how to pose you, or just don't worry about it, and wear whatever you want. Either way, there is no reason to even worry now about it.

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Why worry about all this now? If you two are comfortable with your heights, then don't worry about it at all. The important thing is how you two feel about each other, not that you are taller than him. I don't even think people will notice it at the wedding, and if they do, then they aren't really focusing on what's important in your wedding: you and your fiance making a commitment to each other for the rest of your lives.

trix1223

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[QUOTE]Your wedding date is about 4 ( 2014) years away. I would wait about 3 1/2 to start worryung about this. Wear small heels, talk to your photographer on how to pose you, or just don't worry about it, and wear whatever you want. Either way, there is no reason to even worry now about it.
Posted by mags0607[/QUOTE]

nice catch, mags.  Seriously, OP, if you're going to obsess about things that are completely out of your control for the next 4 years, you're going to have a coronary before your wedding.

You're not going to get shorter.  He's not going to get taller.  Why pretend in pictures that you're not the height that you  both are? 

I have a mental image of your children looking at your oh-so-artfully created wedding photos.  "Mommy, why did daddy get smaller after you were married?"

OP:  let this go.  For at least 3.9 years.  Then worry about shoes that are comfortable so you can relax and enjoy your wedding day.

banana468

I don't know how "traditional" family members are going to be upset over the truth:  you're taller than him.

Just tell them that on your wedding day of all days, you won't lie.

jburrelli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm taller than him! : Somehow I find it really hard to believe that your family members have a problem with you being taller than him. Even if they do, tell them to get over it and wear whatever you want.  In 2014.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

I never said their objections made sense, I personally couldn't believe it either, but you can't really remove the douchebagery from your family.

emilyinchile

Four years? 4? Damn, that is a long time. I'd forget about anything and everything wedding related until approximately mid-2012. And who knows, by then you might love flats, or heels for men might be super fashionable.

Seriously though, if you love heels, presumably you have worn them around your FI before. I'm guessing your family may even have seen you wearing them around him. They'll deal. If you think it'll be a problem for some reason, just don't discuss it with them - I guarantee you that on the day of your wedding no crazy family member is going to pull you aside in the middle of the ceremony to tell you to take your shoes off.