2 MOH & 1 BM...rude?

ChunknLaura

Quick question...

We are having 3 BM and 4 GM.  I am just realizing that its OKAY to have uneven sides.  Anyways, I want my sister as my MOH and my best friend as my Matron of Honor.  My BFF means so much to me and I really want her as MatronOH (I'm her MOH as well) and of course my sister has had the MOH idea in her head since, well, forever.  I am wondering if it would be rude then to have one BM.  I don't think the BM would care at all, she's a really laid-back chick but I don't want to offend her or anything.  

We haven't asked sides yet or anything, so I can change my mind, just wanted to feel it out with you ladies before I get into details!

Thanks!

felicia220

If she is that laid-back she won't care a bit, I wouldn't.  Some people do get caught up in titles, so you need to think about what kind of people your Sister and BBF are.  Will they battle over stuff and then throw your only BM in the middle?  If not, you are good to go.  

ChunknLaura

Brooke-that is exactly what I'm concerned about..the one BM.  I thought about abolishing all titles, but I know that my sister would be heartbroken.  Thanks for all the advice, the BM, like I said, is pretty chill.  I think when the time comes to ask, I'll play it by ear and see what happens

riverjib

I wouldn't mind at all. It's an honor just to be included. Any time I've been a BM, I've known the bride well enough to know who she is closest to. MOH choices usually aren't surprising, and I certainly wouldn't be insulted about being the only BM.

tiffersnc

I'm actually in a wedding party where there are two bridesmaids (and two junior bridesmaids, her nieces). The other bridesmaid is my friend's MOH. I can tell you that my feelings weren't hurt at all; I'm just thrilled to be standing with my friend that day. I think that your friend will be glad to be included. I know I am.

HTH!

jaimed99

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_2-moh-1-bmrude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:13c2499d-96b3-4152-bddf-778d48a851aaPost:4a476827-8486-4c0d-8d13-9ba93082bc42">Re: 2 MOH & 1 BM...rude?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it is rude at all. I am having a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor. I then am having two bridesmaids. So far the girls have not said anything bad about the whole thing.  GL!
Posted by beckster5551[/QUOTE]

<div>This is me too...I have a Maid and Matron of Honor (Although if my Matron weren't married I'd just have two Maids), and two (or three, still haven't heard from the third) BMs...I do agree with those who said maybe just have three MOHs, or three BMs...however maybe you could discuss with your girls and see what they think.</div>

dd36lyn36

We have "co-best men".  I asked the girls (my best girls) if they cared about their titles and they said no.  One is MOH and the other is a BM.  Its just a title, both want to give a speech at the reception and I am fine with it!