I dont know where to start, so I guess the beginning is best. My grammer probably wont be up to par either so try to look past it because Im really hurt/frustrated/and annoyed at this point.
Just have an MOH, and two bridesmaids.
I had my bachlorette party this weekend. Nothing to fancy, I used a future in laws empty condo, and we went to a bar. The only reason we chose mothers day weekend was because of one particular bridesmaid who works shifts. That was the only weekend she could do it, and they asked if I would be okay with it. Sure, no problem Ill be home later that day. Fast forward to two weeks before the party and she starts changing plans on my MOH. She goes from saying she cant do it anymore, to she can, than she cant.
It then boils down to she can do it, but cant stay the night. The night before she says she CAN, the day of she says she CANT. (So much back and forth) Well, that ticked my MOH off, but she just kept it to herself. My MOH had this girls dress and shoes, and the girl asked her to bring them with her to the condo. She replied "Dur thats a given". WELL Miss bridesmaid took serious offense to this statement, and said that it was rude. She then gets in an argument over this, and they let their dirty laundry out with eachother and thats that.
I believe the feud to be over, but two hours before the night is supposed to start she text me saying she cant pretend everything is okay with my MOH and she cant attend the festivities. WTF. I ask her why cant she look past that and be there for me, and she doesnt answer. OKAY, Whatever. I have a good night, and go home the next day. She hasnt spoken to me since.
But my MOH comes to me today and lets me that she wouldnt be surprised if she didnt show up the day of, and of course I ask why? Well, she pulls out her phone and shows me text messages from Miss bridesmaid, who I now fondly call Miss coward.
They were in these topic areas. 1.) She only asked me to be in the wedding because she liked the bachlorette party I threw my other friend. 2.) I dont even know why she asked me to begin with we havent been that close lately 3.) Im going to have to leave the wedding early because my son has a baseball came at 6pm (he is in tball) 4.) I dont understand why she even brings up so so (her boyfriend of 6 years) thats in the past.
A little background on number 5. We all worked together, me, her, and her boyfriend. Me and her boyfriend dated for a little while but he said he didnt want a relationship, just friend....okay sure. He says he cares about her, she says she likes him, i tell them to go for it. Boom end of story. I told my MOH we just dated for awhile before they did.
Can we say that I was hurt? I asked her because I had known her for so long and I considered her one of my close friends. If you didnt want to be in my wedding why did you say yes!?!?! Thats the message im getting.
I have her dress and shoes, and i paid for the shoes. I have tried talking to her with no response. My wedding is two weeks out, and a friend of mine has gone above and beyond for me for this wedding she isnt even in. She fits in the dress and honestly, Id rather have her up there instead of Miss Coward two face.
Is it completely wrong if she doesnt speak to me, and doesnt show up, that I have my friend stand up there with me? Of course I would compensate her for the dress, but it really seems she is trying to back out at the last minute and the way she is, she will just avoid speaking to me to get out of it, thats just how she is.
If this were your situation what would you do?