Bridal Party +1

laughstooeasily

In order to keep our guest list under control we are limiting our +1s to people in relationships and those who only know my FI and I. This would mean that a number of our bridal party members who are single wouldn't get a +1, but that feels wrong to me. Should all members of our bridal party be invited with a guest or should we use the same criteria (being in a relationship) that we are using for our other guests?

Summer2011Bride

I mean, it is OK to not invite TRULY single people with a +1. That is what we did, but we still gave one to all of our WP members, even those who are single. Because many of them traveled, plus they were putting in so much time to be a part of our wedding, I thought it was nice and really didn't add that many guests. And even though we extended them a +1, honestly most of them didn't bring one. It's still a nice thing to do.

mbcdefg

The bridal party members are devoting a lot of their time and money to you and your wedding, so offering them each a guest is the right thing to do. Your other guests don't need to know that their dates aren't their significant others. And who knows, maybe they will say no thanks to bringing a date my dingle bridesmaid decided not to bring anyone, even a friend. That being said ... if space or money truly prevents you from offering them a date, then you can't help that. But I would really sit fien and study your budget and see if there's any way you can make it happen. I would try and cut back on things other than photos, food and booze, because those are the only things your guests will really notice.

m tulli

It's fine to give the wedding party a plus 1.

GoodLuckBear14

I would give them a +1.  After the ceremony and the time they've spent with you throughout the day, they should be allowed to hang out with someone of their choosing.

aerinpegadrak

I think your bridal party should get to bring guests.  Also, if I read that correctly, are you not inviting some people who are in committed relationships (married, engaged, living together) but where the spouse hasn't met both of you?  Because I can tell you now, that's a good way to piss a lot of people off.  Etiquette says that they're a social unit and need to be invited together, regardless of who knows whom.

laughstooeasily

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-1-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:16ae0b60-1d33-4c7b-a8d2-b66605cf24ffPost:5138f8a1-a8e0-4792-bbe2-1a21aa127736">Re: Bridal Party +1</a>:
[QUOTE]I think your bridal party should get to bring guests.  <strong>Also, if I read that correctly, are you not inviting some people who are in committed relationships (married, engaged, living together) but where the spouse hasn't met both of you? </strong> Because I can tell you now, that's a good way to piss a lot of people off.  Etiquette says that they're a social unit and need to be invited together, regardless of who knows whom.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

<div>I may have been a little unclear on this. We are inviting ALL SOs and giving single people who will know no one at the wedding but us a +1. I would never tell someone that they can't bring their significant other, that's just rude.</div>

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-1-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:16ae0b60-1d33-4c7b-a8d2-b66605cf24ffPost:bcb170f8-1346-489c-a28a-73546ebc50de">Re: Bridal Party +1</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Party +1 : I may have been a little unclear on this. We are inviting ALL SOs and giving single people who will know no one at the wedding but us a +1. I would never tell someone that they can't bring their significant other, that's just rude.
Posted by laughstooeasily[/QUOTE]

Ah, thanks for the clarification.  Yeah, that's totally kosher.