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Help with Wannabe MOH

Sorry this got so long!! Any repsonses will be greatly appreciated!!

I live with my fiance, his brother (A), his brother's fiancee (B), and their daughter. My fiance and I became engaged over the holidays, and since we are in college and don't graduate until June 2012, and don't have a lot of money, we decided to wait until that summer to get married. I am not going to start planning anything for atleast another year, maybe longer, since the date is so far away. My problem is my fiance's brother's fiancee, aka B. I hope this makes sense so far. Anyway, I have made it clear to EVERYBODY, from my parents and sisters to our friends, that I am not planning yet and not deciding on a wedding party until I do. However, B has already assumed she will be my MOH. I have three sisters, and two other best friends besides her. The thing with B is, even though we live together now, a year ago we were not on speaking terms. If we did speak, it was not the most pleasant words. I have never liked her too much. She is selfish, rude, and always has an attitude with people. I only deal with her at all because she is my fiance's brother's fiancee. Otherwise, I wouldn't even speak to her. We have been in terrible fights before where we called eachother names (mature, I know) and just in general have a bad past. Lately, she has been telling everyone she is my best friend and has put up things on facebook etc that we are best friends whose fiances are brothers, how we get along so well, blah blah blah. She keeps talking about helping me plan my wedding (we have two completely different tastes) and being my MOH. Each time, I kindly say that I am not planning yet, and I am not choosing wedding party people yet. Who knows, on the big day we may once again not be on speaking terms, and even if we are, I don't want her for my MOH. Basically, I'm asking how to handle this situation. Any ideas? She ignores me when I tell her that I am not planning yet and that I am not picking my MOH.

Re: Help with Wannabe MOH

  • I forgot about the sister in law part. Hahaha. It is hard to deal with since we all live together.
    jeannigirl - She is very immature.
    They had their baby at a young age and are not financially stable enough to live on their own, which is why we decided it would be a "great" idea to live together. Thanks for all the advice! It was much needed lol.
  • You're handling it as well as possible. Just stick to it, and hopefully she'll get tired of hearing the same answer.

    Also, kudos on not rushing out to plan and pick your WP right away - I think you're saving yourself a lot of burnout and stress.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wannabe-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:18341a4a-3af8-41b7-b4fc-bbd3f548493ePost:a4c943c6-8b12-4789-a497-77fae9004eca">Re: Help with Wannabe MOH</a>:
    [QUOTE]"It is way too early to think about who will be in the WP.  I might not even decide to have a MOH.  Please stop asking me about it." Repeat as necessary.
    Posted by gottahavashorti[/QUOTE]

    Exactly this. You're in no way obligated to have her as your MOH just bc you live with her.
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