Recently I got a question from one of my bridesmaids (let's call her Susie) that I'm not quite sure of how to respond. I was a bridesmaid in Susie's wedding last December. We each paid for our own dresses and shoes, but she let each of us pick out our own dress (as long as it was the correct color and length.) Not only will she be a bridesmaid for my wedding in April 2013, she will also be a bridesmaid in another wedding in May 2013. The bride for this other wedding called her a few days ago to tell Susie that she went out and bought the bridesmaids' shoes and that they could pick them up at her house. Yesterday I was talking to Susie and she asked, "What kind of shoes are you getting for us for your wedding?" All I could say was that I haven't found anything I liked yet. I have never planned on buying the bridesmaids' shoes or dresses. I was thinking about maybe paying for a small portion of their attire (if our budget will allow), but never mentioned it to Susie. I have always been under the impression that if you are asked to be a bridesmaid and you agree, you should be willing to pay for your own dress and shoes. And Susie never offered to help pay for our dresses or shoes for her wedding. What do you guys think? Am I wrong for being a little upset or confused? Should Susie have assumed that I was paying for the shoes? How should I respond to this?