PLEASE HELP. Bridal Party Confusion

jerkat10

Hi. So my wedding is in October. And the Bridal Party hasn't been set yet. My fiance just practically announced who his groomsmen are (he told me he was going to but I didn't think it through) and now he has five men in his party and I only have three in mine (and I may only have two if his sister can't come which is a big possibilty). I know it's "okay" to have uneven sides, but I really really wanted to avoid that. Here's the problem. All my friends are too immature (I'm a 20 year old mother and I don't party or go to school anymore) and all my cousins are too old (I'm talking like early 30s) I have no idea what to do. Does anyone have any advice?  Thanks..

HeathenSwan

What does the age of people have to do with their worthiness to be in your wedding? If you care about them and feel close to them, that should be the only criteria. Don't ask people who will be able to help the most, or to bulk up the numbers. If you've only got three people you want, only ask three people. It's okay, and it will prevent a lot of stress later down the line. And if you're worried about recessional evenness, have the two guys walk back together.

SomethingBeautiful08

Don't let age or maturity dictate if someone should be an attendant or not.  That should be determined soly on realitive closeness to you and willingness on their part to be in the party... i.e. buy the dress, stand by you & do pictures.  Pick the ladies that are closest to you and let him pick the men that are closest to him and let it go. 

There are many creative ways to do the ceramony standing & pictures that will make the "un evenness" of sides not feel awkward.  Let the men and the women come in seperately and leave seperately.  A good photographer will make the posed pictures work. 

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Hi. So my wedding is in October. And the Bridal Party hasn't been set yet. My fiance just practically announced who his groomsmen are (he told me he was going to but I didn't think it through) and now he has five men in his party and I only have three in mine (and I may only have two if his sister can't come which is a big possibilty). I know it's "okay" to have uneven sides, but I really really wanted to avoid that. Here's the problem. All my friends are too immature (I'm a 20 year old mother and I don't party or go to school anymore) and all my cousins are too <strong>old (I'm talking like early 30s)</strong> I have no idea what to do. Does anyone have any advice?   Thanks..
Posted by jerkat10[/QUOTE]


Well, being 38, I'm at death's door.  Where's my cane?

Seriously, age doesn't matter.  My aunt was my MOH and she was 55ish while my11 year old niece was my BM. 

mbcdefg

Why would uneven sides be such a problem for you?

direy25

Also wondering what age has to do with it?  Two of my BM's were 37 - oh the horror.

Meghannsix

Yeah, one of my BM's will be 46 at the time of the wedding.  Maybe I should kick her out and find a replacement?  When will people learn?

COSmitty

I'm the youngest in my entire bridal party... my "maids" have all been married 10-20+ years and range from 1-15 years older than me. They are my best friends and my rocks- so I picked them.