I'm cool with the idea of uneven sides....but this is VERY uneven.
I checked with FI before I asked my girls, and we both had a list of 5 people to ask. Some of them we knew might have financial difficulties, but all my girls immediately said "YES! I'll just save money". All but 1 will have to fly to the wedding, which is in my hometown.
His 2 best friends responded by griping about how we shouldn't get married there because they'll have to fly. His other three friends just never responded to his emails and calls. He asked me to check with some of my guy friends, and one of them agreed, so that's great.
Now the best friend that FI asked to be his best man is putting everything in terms of "if we have $$".....FI really wants him there, but we can't afford to buy his ticket and obviously can't force him to get it by a certain time so it will be cheaper.
1. Should we give his best man a deadline? It really hurts watching FI get so little support from his friends.
2. Can anyone offer standing suggestions if we end up with 5 girls and only 2 guys? I'm pretty much at a loss - I don't want his side to look empty as if he has no friends.