Big Wedding Party - What should my JUNIOR bridesmaid wear next to us?

Mbenwitz

I will consider this...........but if I call her a bridesmaid, does my fiance call his 10 yr old  brother a groomsman?

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]I will consider this...........but if I call her a bridesmaid, does my fiance call his 10 yr old  brother a groomsman?
Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]



Yes.

mlg78

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[QUOTE]I will consider this...........but if I call her a bridesmaid, does my fiance call his 10 yr old  brother a groomsman?
Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]

<div>That's correct.  The only appropriate roles for the wedding party are maid/matron of honor, bridesmaid, best man, groomsmen (usher if you must...but I personally think that's a crap job and not much of an honor), ring bearer and flower girl.  You may also have someone do readings or sing as well.</div>

Peledreamsofrain

In Response to Re:Big Wedding Party What should my JUNIOR bridesmaid wear next to us?:[QUOTE]Peles, shame on you.nbsp; First the horrible hate speech about the sailors on the other thread, now you're mooning people.nbsp; Tsk tsk. Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Hahaa, I'm outta control, what can I say. And TX, you have my husband in stitches. He almost wanted to create an account to say 'Darn right she does!"

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]Are you looking for a suitable bridesmaid dress or prom dress? Aniia  is great choice!   <a href="http://www.aniia.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.aniia.com</a> My friends recommend it for me!You can check it! What do you think of the dresses?
Posted by Catherine&88[/QUOTE]



She is not looking for a dress. Have you read the thread?

Summer2011Bride

I think you're not finding anyone who has had a junior BM to give you the advice you want because none of us have had them because we find it belittling to the junior BM. I'm glad you are considering going with BM. You really, really should. Had I been asked at 14 to be a junior BM, I would have loathed the title but would have minded my manners and not pointed out to the bride that it was demeaning to me and I hated it. I would've kept my mouth shut because that's the polite thing to do. Silence doesn't equal liking something.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]That's a spammer. See the bad English? Too late.  I banned Pele for indecent exposure. Too bad she's not in North Carolina.  Mooning is legal here.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>Do I get a special cease and desist letter?  A "congratulations, now go away" award?  I feel very accomplished right now!</div>

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]That's a spammer. See the bad English? Too late.  I banned Pele for indecent exposure. Too bad she's not in North Carolina.  Mooning is legal here.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Wait, mooning is legal in NC? I missed out when I was in college!

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]Why are you still here? click click click click click click I banned everybody The Knot except myself.  Nobody should be able to post except me.  I'm the only one worth listening to.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Oh, no it worked.  We're just the other voices.  It's not worth talking to yourself if you don't talk back, right?

Dibs on being Retread's Id!

TKzilla

So... I have a junior bridesmaid. She's nine. I think I posted about this in another thread. If she wanted to be a regular ol' bridesmaid, I'd let her. But she thinks being a "junior bridesmaid" is special, so I let her have it. Because she's nine (and teeny) she has to wear a different dress than the "regular" bridesmaids. I think there is a huge difference in calling a nine-year-old a "junior" and calling a fourteen-year-old a "junior". As for the other stuff, my junior was invited to the engagement party, will be invited to the bridal shower and will be invited to the first part of the bachelor/bachelorette party if her mother agrees. We'll pick her up in the limo, take her to dinner with us, then drop her off before the drinking commences. So basically, she's included in everything except the activities she legally can't be apart of. Her bouquet will be slightly smaller, but again, she's so teeny that if she carried the same sized bouquet as the other bridesmaids, you wouldn't be able to see her.

Let her wear the same dress with modifications for modesty. Include her in what you can. If she's truly fine with being a junior bridesmaid, then whatever. It's not what I'd call her, but it ain't my wedding.

nicoleandersonmd

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[QUOTE]My future mother in law thinks she should wear a different dress b/c she'll be walking down the aisle with her lil brother (age 10) and my fiance keeps calling him his "best boy". Ever time I have said, "don't u think I should make her a bridemaid?? I don't wnat her to feel left out", everyone in my fiances family and mine say "no, she's lucky to even be a part of it! She should be a junior!" I think may stick to the same dress and a slightly different bouquet or headpiece. 
Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]



Really!?!? An ENTIRE family says that she's LUCKY TO EVEN be part of your wedding?! Wow. That is actually incredibly dismissive of this young girl and kind of disgusting that a whole family would say something like that. I hope that thet are not her family. Poor dear.

icefog34

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[QUOTE]The dresses are rosepetal colored very fitted with pretty straps, thin but halter like. A few people think I should have my junior (14 years old) wear the same dress but make it strapless. I dont think that strapless would be appropriate. I was thinking to either have her wear same dress with a slightly different color, or same dress and color with a different color something around the waist. What are your suggestions? Do any of you have picture examples of a large wedding party with just one junior? I want her to look a little different but not stand out tooo too much. Thanks! 
Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]
Lol, my JUNIOR groomsmaid just rolls her eyes and tells me "those ladies are crazy" when I tell her about the hot button debate about whether to call a young girl Junior or not!  My daughter could give a rats behind to what she's refered to!  I think this subject is beaten to death and put way too much emphasis on such a trivial detail.  I think debate aside, I would not do strapless, but spaghetti straps would be fine, the sash you're thinking of would work.  My daughter is going to be wearing a one shoulder long dress and she looks sophisticated without being age inappropriate.  Good luck in your decision! 

icefog34

In Response to Re:Big Wedding Party What should my JUNIOR bridesmaid wear next to us?:[QUOTE]I didn't ask any of you your thoughts about her being a junior bridemaid!!!I do not care how you did your wedding, this is how I am doing mine. Shes my junior bridesmaid. Now if you want to offer me advice from there, awesome. IF not, I don't want to hear your comments!! 12 year old MOH? We clearly see weddings differently!All my best friends and family members are my age! She is going to stand out no matter what. Giving her something a little different like a slightly different bouquet will make her feel special, not "different". The last thing I wana make her do is feel uncomfortable. I want her to feel extra special just like I might give something to my maid of honor to make her feel extra special.nbsp;I already decided that I'm going to have her bouquet slightly different from the bridesmaids match flowers in her hair. I don't need any more advice. THANKS. I got it from internet research and opinions from my friends. Posted by Mbenwitz[/QUOTE]
Very rarely will any of these people stick to the question at hand. They love picking people apart and making them feel bad for things totally irrelevant to what you want to know. Glad you were able to figure out what you wanted to know. I'm sure she'll be just as beautiful as the rest of the ladies in your party!