MOB dress

as985

My Mom and I have been shopping for a dress for her to wear to my wedding. We found this dress, which I love (despite the model in the picture it looked very age appropriate on my Mom) :
 
http://www.lordandtaylor.com/eng/womensapparel-Dresses-Sleeveless_Ribbon_Trim_Belted_Dress-lordandtaylor/51407

My Mom is turning 50 this week, but she is in good shape, and this dress was so flattering on her (I am probably biased, but I think she could have passed for 39). My Mom is not as tall as the model wearing the dress, so the length of the dress is about 3-4" longer than the picture. She looked gorgeous. 

My bridesmaids dresses look like this:
http://www.bluefly.com/Amsale-celedon-satin-strapless-dress/COLOR_CROSS-SELL/301793902/detail.fly (the color is actually a little lighter in person).

I have found it hard to find any dresses that compliment this color of green for the MOB and the MOG. I personally have no problem if  my Mom and my fiance's Mom wear  black dresses. I love to wear black clothes. I think black looks classy at evening events (we are having an evening wedding).

can you give me some opinions? I am sure I may get some slack for wanting the Moms to wear black

SocialWorker2B

I personally see no problem with having the moms wear black. I am sure that no one will assume they are mourning, especially if they are smiling ear to ear which I am sure they will be doing.

I really like both dresses - the MOB and the BM dresses!

But, if you feel people really will say things (which, of course, would be totally rude).....do you have a secondary wedding color? Or could you go with a champagne or a brown color instead of the black?

I am sure that no matter which color you chose, it will look great. Don't let other people tell you what they should wear - only the opinions of the MOB, MOG and your FI count!

emilykathleen511

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_mob-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:1c6b3299-8cb0-48fb-9ad6-e49c28f4b7b5Post:eed954dc-8808-4ee4-a724-ec9fe8c1bafd">MOB dress</a>:
[QUOTE]My Mom and I have been shopping for a dress for her to wear to my wedding. We found this dress, which I love (despite the model in the picture it looked very age appropriate on my Mom) :   <a href="http://www.lordandtaylor.com/eng/womensapparel-Dresses-Sleeveless_Ribbon_Trim_Belted_Dress-lordandtaylor/51407" rel="nofollow">http://www.lordandtaylor.com/eng/womensapparel-Dresses-Sleeveless_Ribbon_Trim_Belted_Dress-lordandtaylor/51407</a> My Mom is turning 50 this week, but she is in good shape, and this dress was so flattering on her (I am probably biased, but I think she could have passed for 39). My Mom is not as tall as the model wearing the dress, so the length of the dress is about 3-4" longer than the picture. She looked gorgeous.  My bridesmaids dresses look like this: <a href="http://www.bluefly.com/Amsale-celedon-satin-strapless-dress/COLOR_CROSS-SELL/301793902/detail.fly" rel="nofollow">http://www.bluefly.com/Amsale-celedon-satin-strapless-dress/COLOR_CROSS-SELL/301793902/detail.fly</a>  (the color is actually a little lighter in person). I have found it hard to find any dresses that compliment this color of green for the MOB and the MOG. I personally have no problem if  my Mom and my fiance's Mom wear  black dresses. I love to wear black clothes. I think black looks classy at evening events (we are having an evening wedding). can you give me some opinions? I am sure I may get some slack for wanting the Moms to wear black
Posted by as985[/QUOTE]

<div>Unless they have specifically asked you to find dress ideas for them, you should allow them to find dresses on their own. They have been dressing themselves their entire lives...they can surely do so on your wedding day.</div><div>
</div><div>If they did ask for your help, I think black dresses will be lovely. I like the dress you left a link to, it is very pretty. Another color option that might look nice with the celadon would be a forest or emerald green color...something darker than the celadon color.</div>

SarahPLiz

Yep, they get to wear what they want. If they want a color that doesn't compliment the green of your BMs, then that's their choice. If they want black, then that' s ok too.

This paragraph will serve you well when dealing with MOB and MOG attire issues, "Mom (FMIL), wear whatever makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. I trust you to dress yourself, since you have been doing it for years. We are using color X and color y, in case you want to compliment them, but wear whatever color compliments YOU the best. I love you and I want you to feel awesome in whatever you wear!"
Repeat as necessary.

stina93446

Some moms are uncomfortable wearing black to a wedding. I have tried and tried again but my mom was not going to budge on a color dress. That being said, you can't make the moms wear black. You can suggest it, but that's as far as you can go.

trix1223

Your mom is not part of the WP , so you don't get to choose her attire.  You get to choose your WP, and that's it.  As Sarah said, you can let her know the colors of your WP, but she doesn't have to coordinate with them.

Of the thousands of photos taken at your wedding, there will be small percentage of them that have your mom in them.  There will probably be NONE that have WP and mom, so there's really no need to coordinate.

When I asked DIL what she wanted me to wear, her answer was "Whatever you feel beautiful and comfortable in."  Perfect answer from my perfect DIL.

Chill on this one. Not your call.

bablingbrooke

Don't, I repeat, don't get involved in planning your FMIL's outfit unless she specifically asks you.  It's a recipe for trouble.

The outfits don't have to coordinate with the BMs or with each other.  

as985

Thank you for all the replies ladies . I don't think I worded my OP well- I am in no way dictaticting what my Mom or my FMIL have to wear. They are both beautiful women (inside and out), and I know that they will both look great on the wedding day.
 But they both want my opinion on their dresses (even though I trust both of their tastes). I know that my Mom loves the dress (she saw it in November and she loved it then too; she picked it out)- she was worried that a mostly black dress wouldn't be appropriate for our wedding (although I told her it would be fine- the dress looked beautiful on her and I love black dresses). I  do know that my FMIL wants to coordinate with my Mom. So I was just trying to get feed back to make sure that a mostly black MOB/MOG dress would not be considered a major "no" in this day and age.