FAQs?

emilykathleen511

I know that someone on here was working on some FAQs of the WPB a while back, but she was hosting it on a different site.

I was wondering if now that we have the ability to post stickies that will actually stay permanently if we wanted to have FAQs posted?

The only issue I could think of is that we wouldn't get any posters any more! lol. Although, I think most ladies probably wouldn't read the FAQs, they would just post, then we would all say "read the FAQs!"

Just thought I would throw the question out there. I tried to add a poll...not sure if it worked or not.

banana468

It's definitely something that we can consider doing.

The big thing though is that I want to make sure brides feel comfortable posting here and not marginalized as if their issue doesn't matter.

ca_surfergirl

I think every situation is different and having general answers will not be as helpful as feedback based on the individual's post. As far as I can tell there are no 'hard and fast rules' in wedding planning or life for that matter.

mbcdefg

I think answers will always vary depending on the situation. Although there are some common answers to common questions, there are always exceptions.

And I think it also sends the message of "We know everything and this is always the way it should be." I think that's just going to further the stereotype that some people have about this board having "cliques." I think a lot of people who come here and don't get the support (a.k.a. validation) that they're looking for convince themselves that it's simply a group of girls ganging up on them, rather than a majority of people who feel that their behavior is wrong.

If every board had an FAQ sticky post, you'd probably have something on many of the club and local boards saying, "Of course it's O.K. to kick out a bridesmaid if she's not helping enough, because it's YOUR DAY! *hugs*"

megk8oz

My problem with a FAQ is the same one I had in the first place: nobody ever reads them anyway.

I also do believe, even though we dispense the same verbatum advice day in and day out to every girl saying she's "spashul" (Which gets annoying), that people should get a fair shot to get real advice from us. I mean, honestly, we DO give varying advice to different problems. It just seems like we're all always saying the same thing because the problem that we see 7 million times a day is "Can I boot a member of my WP?".

Now if there was a way we could ban people from asking that particular question ... lol. Who am I kidding, the board WOULD die then.

stina93446

I think that was me....you can check me website and see if it was...

SarahPLiz

I wondering if it isn't so much of a FAQ, but the regular's best general advice for all WP related matters, such as:

1- Your WP should be those who are emotionally closest to you, not necessarily the best party throwers or the ones that live the closest.

2- Try not to ruin relationships over what may happen on one day in your life, albeit an important day.

3- Always treat your friends as friends and not slaves.

4- No one will be as excited about your wedding as you and your FI, so try to take into account what else is going on in your WP's life OTHER than your wedding.

things like that.. words of wisdom more than absolutes..

banana468

I think words of wisdom may come across better than the no-nos.

As I said above, yes, we want people to lurk first and see what's out there however I also don't want anyone to think, "Man, those people on Wedding Party are so mean and all I asked was a simple question about bridesmaid dresses!  So I made a mistake!  Don't bite my head off!"

This is coming from someone who made a small error at work today and it turned into something that really upset our IT guy.  :-(

jms1019

I'm somewhat new to the boards and I know that I've asked questions that have been asked before, but there are different variables for my situation than for another person. I know the theme may be the same, but it is nice to get some personal feedback. Does it really hurt that much to have several people ask the same question? Isn't it nice that those are questions that you already have the answer to?

I feel so thankful for having personal help and feel really casted aside when I'm told to just read other posts it takes away from that. I've read all the Q & A's, I go to the boards for that personal touch. Why take that away?

megk8oz

Stina, last time you pitched this idea, a certain newbie turned it into a battle of "wits" by essentially telling Tide and Stage that since she would always respond to the OP "like I would my sister or best friend",  she had every right to tell the other posters that they were big meanies and lousy human beings for disagreeing with the OP.

And I still stand by what I said earlier: if people stopped asking "Can I boot a BM?" question, we would have nearly as much drama on this board ... but the board would probably die.

emilykathleen511

You ladies brought up a lot of good points...I just wanted to at least have a discussion about it since we have the ability...I do kind of like the words of wisdom idea...