dresses

mrsamyjones

one more of my bridesmaids bought her dress today...Woo hoo that means 2 out of 6 have now got their dresses taken care of, one more on saturday and hopefully (fingers crossed) another on on sunday. Anywho back to what I am really posting about, I have one BM that is really into those dresses with princess pick ups that look like a comforter...not my style at all... She totally knows I hate them (now) but has anyone else had this weird experience with their BMs wanting to look like mini-princesses? what ever happened to just dressing like a better version of yourself?

bablingbrooke

So she proposed a style of dress that you nixed.  I think everyone's had that experience.  And many, many brides are guilty of "I wanna be a princess" syndrome.  

But I am totally with you on thinking it should be a better version of yourself (for brides and BMs alike), not princess-for-a-day. 

Butkus51507

OMG yes! I can't stand those dresses! They remind me of a wedding cake from 1990! Not sure why, but they do. I had a BM who was totally into them, and every dress she picked out had it on it....even after I told her no way. Drove me nuts!

emilyinchile

I'd just say that you really don't like that style and be done with it. Maybe show her some other ideas that you like and think she might like. Yes you should let your BMs pick a dress they feel comfortable in, but you don't have to let them pick their exact top choice of dress - they can do that in their own weddings.

mbcdefg

Did you allow them to pick their own styles, and the one BM is getting a dress with pickups?

I think that, if you didn't say from the beginning that pickups weren't allowed, it really wouldn't be fair to tell her now that she shouldn't get them. Had you said it from the beginning, I would agree with you to tell her that you'd prefer she pick something else. I would just be happy that she's decided on something, especially since from your post it seems like you're concerned about them actually ordering the darn things. She will be happy in her dress, but she will not overshadow you.

You know her better than me, of course, so maybe this is untrue ... but I don't know that pickups automatically equal "I want to be a princess!" It's just a style right now. I know a lot of girls who've worn pickup dresses to their weddings and they are FAR from princesses. Maybe she just feels that this is the most flattering style for her. Or maybe she wants to keep up with the trends ... I mean, 25 years ago, I'm sure that many bridesmaids and brides felt that shiny teal puffed-sleeved dresses were the hottest thing on the planet :P

stina93446

I hate pickups, but yes, if you didn't tell them at the beginning "no pickups" you gotta let it go.

stahlop

I hate pick up's too.  I had a friend who got married and the dress was all pick ups.  When I described the dress to my mother I said she looked like a wedding cake, or a down comforter.  Plus, they looks so stiff.  Ugh!