Asking bridesmaids

jess&lucas

I'm looking for ideas of how to ask friends to be bridesmaids in your wedding.  I have been in their weddings before and wants to make it special for them!

mbcdefg

Do things they would like ... maybe they'd appreciate being taken out for dinner/drinks, getting a nice card, a homemade scrapbook, etc.

Think about their personalities. For example, I'm not a very sentimental or mushy person, and I hate keepsakes because I hate having "stuff" laying around in my already too-small home ... if a friend gave me a scrapbook covered in hearts and cheesy poems to ask me to be her BM, I'd accept, but I'd probably be thinking, "WTF am I going to do with this?"

The honor is in being asked, not HOW you ask. If you come up with a good idea, by all means go for it, but don't struggle to think of something just for the sake of doing something "cute."

Also, be sure to ask them all individually, so that if they have questions or concerns they can ask you, without the embarrassment and pressure of being in a group. And if you are more than 10 months out from your wedding (especially if your ceremony and reception venues - and therefore your date - are not set in stone yet), WAIT to ask them.

CA2MT4EveR

There are a lot of posts on here about this.

My best advice, just ask them.  No need to go making a big parade out of it.  Save yourself some money and don't go spending on silly items that ask.  And please don't do a group luncheon ala Sex In The City style with a "I have an announcement".  What if someone has an issue and cannot be in your BP?  Now you have 4 other people sitting there thinking she will be in it, but is not, and that will create gossip and drama somewhere along the line. 

trix1223

Just ask them.  In the coming months, the marketers that drive the wedding industry are going to do their best to convince you that EVERYTHING about your wedding has to be a production or your wedding won't be special, unique, memorable, creative, or clever.  Don't get sucked into it.

Just ask your WP.  Call them up.  Go out for coffee.  Drive to their front door and ask.  Will your friends really be more excited to be asked if they get a cookie shaped like a bridesmaid dress than they will if you ask them?

Asking them WILL be memorable without some knick-knack, simply because you're asking them to stand next to you on what is, to that point in your life, the most important day of your life.

The honor is in BEING asked, not in how you're asked.

Licia&Wayne

I agree with PP on the "just ask them" advice. There's no need to go over-the-top with it.

I say that, and in the same post will tell you I made cards for each of my BP members. I did it just so I could write down how I felt about each of them and what they meant to me. Maybe that's something you could do. But I wouldn't stress about unique ways to ask them.