Bridesmaid vs. MOH

acatudal

I want to ask my 2 sisters and best friend to be in my wedding party. However, one of my sisters has issues with my BFF. Should I avoid asking my sis altogether if I know that she and the MOH won't get along?

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]I want to ask my 2 sisters and best friend to be in my wedding party. However, one of my sisters has issues with my BFF. Should I avoid asking my sis altogether if I know that she and the MOH won't get along?
Posted by acatudal[/QUOTE]

Do you really want her to resent you for the rest of her life for choosing a friend over your own sister?  That may sound dramatic but it's probably how she'll see it.

They don't have to be friends.  They don't have to work together.  All they have to do is be grownups and co-exist in a space for a short period of time.

Jessa617

What GoodLuck said. All they have to do is basically stand next to each other for a few moments. They really don't have to spend that much time with each other. I think your sister would be really hurt if you didn't ask her to be a part of your wedding party just because she doesn't like your friend. I don't think that would go over well with the rest of your family either.

AddieCake

Ditto Jess and GLB. If you flat out don't WANT your sister in the WP, that would be different. But to not ask her b/c you fear "potential" trouble is silly. There is no reason they really have to even have much to do with each other. 

banana468

Ditto PPs.   Don't expect them to be best friends but they should be able to survive being in the same room with each other.

ridedatbike

I agree they should be able to stand up together just fine no drama however everything else might just be drama. I posted about a recent wedding I was in the bridesmaids were horrible. They had known the bride her whole life but she picked e to be her moh after only knowing her a year. I lost one of my best friends because of all of the drama. Be warned you may be asking for trouble not making your sister moh. We all stood up and made for. Great looking ceremony but everything else was a cluster fcuk.