Bridesmaids and $$$

caitles14

Thanks for the suggestions guys! I made it optional

HobokensFury

If you make it mandatory you must pay for it 100%.  If it's optional each girl can pay for their own, but understand that some of the girls may opt not to get their hair done.

libby2483

Hoboken is absolutely correct.  Are you requiring your girls to get their hair done? If so, you are obligated to pay.  

However, if you say something along the lines of the following, you are not obligated to pay.  "I'm getting my hair done at X salon.  The cost is $X.  Please let me know if you would like me to make you an appointment for the wedding day.  Otherwise, feel free to do your own hair or get it done at a place of your choosing",  This is what I did.  Three BMs got their hair done at the salon with me, two BMs got it done at other salons, and one BM did her own.  All of them looked beautiful, and I actually thought it looked better that they weren't clones of one another.

AddieCake

I think you should let them wear their hair however they want, and if they can afford to get it done, they can; if they can't afford it, they can do their hair themselves.

caitles14

Well I would never flat out tell them it's a requirement. @Libby, I like your idea and phrasing, so I think I'll do that and give them the option. That seems like the easiest way to make everyone happy thanks!

sierraberry32

 If I was asked to be a bridesmaid, I would only expect to pay for my dress and shoes (maybe my nails) but that's it... Making them pay for their hair is like a hidden fee. And I don't know anybody that is okay with paying for a hidden fee.

Winnertag1

Anything you a re requiring your bridesmaids to buy, except for the dress (and after you have gotten a budget from each of them) is something you pay for yourself. You can suggest to your friends that they get their hair done, say you are using so and so and here are the prices, ask if they would want to use their services too. But if you tell them they must get it done, then you must be paying for it.

GoodLuckBear14

OP - Please do not change your posts.  It is very rude to those who took the time to answer you and is unhelpful to other brides who may have the same question you had.