3 flower girls!!

ajr123

My fiance has 2 nieces, ages 5 and 7, and I have a 6 year old niece. My niece wants to be the "only" flower girl, so I was trying to make her "special" by having her be the only one to throw flower petals. And have the other two carry some sort of flower wand. My fiance doesn't think this is fair (and I kind of agree), but I've already told my niece she would be the only flower tosser. What should I do???

getaclue44

My church doesn't allow for anything to be thrown so we don't have that problem.  However, what about having them throw different colored petals?  That way she could pick her color and maybe that would help.  TBH, I would probably just tell her that you are sorry, but you were wrong to promise her that and that all the flower girls will be throwing flowers or none of them will.  

aerinpegadrak

I think your niece needs to learn to share.

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EVERY flowergirl s/b special

JaxInBlue

I agree with Stage.  All three girls are going to be your nieces now.  You need to apologize to your niece for the promise you made and treat the girls the same.  They are too close in age to differentiate between them.

roseofdeborah

I did something when I was young that might work in your case. There was a flower girl who threw petals and then two girls, myself included, who handed roses to the last person on every aisle going down the middle, prob about 30 total, 15 for each side.

Lolagirl2012

Agreed with PP. It's hard,  I have 3 nieces and this is the route I chose. Granted, this may be too late for you, but just an idea.

I have 3 nieces who are 8, 6 and 3. My oldest niece, A, is my Jr. MOH, my FI's niece S is a flower girl and my youngest niece B is holding a flower pillow (because we don't have a ring bearer and B has some fine motor skill issues that it would be hard for her to grasp petals and drop them)

I chose to give A a different title and dress because she and I have had a very close relationship and I lived with her and my sister. It also made S feel more important because she was the older FG and she could help B with FG duties too. This worked for my situation and all my nieces are happy!

Kate61487

Ditto stage and aerin. This is a teachable moment "auntie has two new nieces and she loves you all the same".

ajr123

Ok, thanks everyone for the advice:)

sadieboud10

It's YOU & your FIANCEE'S wedding, not this little girls. She'll have her day one day. It's not fair to the other two that they don't get to throw flowers. I think it's outrageous that this little girl is demanding to want to be the only FG.