What about this BM dress for plus sized girls?

jmestyle

Will this one work?
http://www.morilee.com/escalar.php?imagen=admon/userfiles/vestido/Picture/264/img0_victoriansky.jpg&ancho=600&alto=850

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the feedback

emilyinchile

As we all previously said, have your girls try it on. Ask them what they think - they're used to dressing their own bodies. You're not going to get new advice just because it's a new dress.

That said, I do think it's a very pretty dress.

SarahPLiz

It really depends on their body shape. You should probably email this to them and see if they think it would work. It may work for those who have waists, but it may look like a large ace bandage on those of us who are more block shaped.

gottahavashorti

It's possible, but have them try it on - whether someone is a size 2 or a size 20, it is really going to depend on their body shape and what insecurities they have about their body.

My BM and I are all within a couple jean sizes of each other at most, but have completely different body shapes, heights, and features that they try to complement or de-emphasize.  They all looked good in different dresses, and it surprised me when one chose the dress I would have selected myself.

gottahavashorti

You don't have to buy from DB or AA, but please try to go to a David's Bridal or Alfred Angelo store to at least get an idea of what styles work.  Or even browse at the mall for similar cuts to see how they work - a one shoulder dress, one with ruching, etc.

If you're not willing to have them try on different cuts somewhere, just order them a dress and hope it works, but realize that you may have bridesmaids who look uncomfortable or self conscious.

emilyinchile

I can't comment on DB because I've never been in one. But even if your BMs can't try on the dresses, surely they're going to know more about what styles look better on their bodies than we are! There are different shapes of plus size/overweight (just as there are different shapes of size 2), and there's no one universal dress that looks good on everyone of a certain size.

Also, my BMs are all in matching dresses, I prefer that look, but to say that mismatched dresses are tacky is ridiculous. I've seen some gorgeous, classy, formal weddings with BMs in a range of dresses. It's just another style.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]You don't have to buy from DB or AA, but please try to go to a David's Bridal or Alfred Angelo store to at least get an idea of what styles work.
Posted by gottahavashorti[/QUOTE]

Thank you shorti for reminding me of this - I believe we said this last time! Nobody's telling you that you have to buy from these places, just that they're a good resource to find styles that you can then buy from another designer.

gottahavashorti

[QUOTE]Normally ruching creates curves or emphasizes shape and works on every body type.[/QUOTE]
FWIW, heavy ruching like that looks awful on me and emphasizes all the wrong things while light ruching works well.  On my nearly model thin sister, heavy ruching looks amazing while lighter ruching and the wrong cut can make her look emaciated when she's not.

[QUOTE]I also refuse to put my girls in different style dresses, its just plain tacky imo
Posted by jmestyle[/QUOTE]
Not your syle whatsoever?  Sure.  That's fine.  I'm really not seeing how it can be considered tacky, however.

mbcdefg

I tried on wedding dresses with this kind of waist and they didn't flatter me. That being said, I've seen big girls who are curvy pull off that look very well.

How the hell are mismatching dresses "tacky"? You don't have to like them, but to call them "tacky" is absolutely not true. Just because someone doesn't want her BMs looking like clones doesn't make her "tacky."

SarahPLiz

I still think that even though they can't try them on, you should be asking THEM if they think it will look ok on them. They have been dressing themselves for years and probably have a good idea if that style will look good or not.

On me, that amount of rusching would make me look SO PG because I don't have ANY waist hip differential. The heavy rusching would make it look like I was trying too hard.

CTGirl30

What do your BMs think of that style? They'd know best, really. I'm also thinking it would really depend on whether the girls have a definaed waist or not - whomever made the comment about it possibly looking like an ACE bandage on the girls who do not have hourglass shapes (no matter their size) is probably correct!

I think tacky is probably not the most appropriate word for your dislike of the different dress look...

tacky

adjective,

1.	not tasteful or fashionable; dowdy.

2.	shabby in appearance; shoddy: a tacky, jerry-built housing development.

3.	crass; cheaply vulgar; tasteless; crude.

4.	gaudy; flashy; showy.

Alot of girls have their BMs wear different styles and I don't think anyone would say it's not tasteful or fashionable or that it's crass....or any of the above adjectives.

It's perfectly fine if it's not your preference but if you're going to ask that all of your BMs wear the exact same style, it's going to be a little more involved trying to find ONE dress they are all comfortable in. This involves try-ons and seeing in person how the dress cut fits the girls. Get their opinions on the dress and have them take a vote on it if they can't try it on in person - they'll know best what is more apt to flatter their individual figures.

duckie1905

You need to ask them!  Everyone carries weight differently and there is no hard or fast rule that one type of dress looks good on plus women and another doesn't.

Take it from a plus-sized woman.  She will appreciate you actually including her rather than asking us.

saisongbird

I'm a larger girl myself, and I would probably hate that dress because my hips are my widest point on my body.  I feel like the attention would go straight to the part of me I hate the most.

FYI - empire waists are generally great for plus sized girls because it puts the waist at our smallest part.

And two things regarding David's - first you don't have to BUY the dresses there but they DO carry large sizes, so at least you'll get a sense of cuts. And secondly, while you may not like David's and may have had bad experiences, many of us have used David's to great success - no need to make us feel badly about our decisions.

blackfire5th

I'm a larger girl, just on the plus size border (size 14).  The thing with finding dresses is it all depends where it cuts in, where it creates the narrowest point.  If the dress hits at my narrowest (a few inches under my boobs), then I look my slimmest.  If the dress's narrowest point does not coincide with my narrow point, it gives the illussion that I am much larger than I am because the dress is saying "this is the smallest point on this girl, everything else is larger."  It is really bad when that cuts just at my largest point (my belly) which is just where that dress would cut.  Also, ruching sometimes is good, sometimes is not.  The best fabrics that work for me are those that don't cling, like chiffon.  I prefer dresses that are tightest under the boobs, and then the fabric is loose over my belly.

swim1011

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[QUOTE] I also refuse to put my girls in different style dresses, its just plain tacky imo
Posted by jmestyle[/QUOTE]

You say tacky, most of us say bridezilla and OCD. 

There ARE places that have plus size dresses, you just have to make an effort to find them.  And there is nothing wrong with trying on dresses at AA and DB.  And the dress you linked is not something I would want to wear, as a closer to plus than petite size girl.

duckie1905

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[QUOTE]I also refuse to put my girls in different style dresses, its just plain tacky imo
Posted by jmestyle[/QUOTE]

Please review above. You don't understand what tacky means.

With that being said, let go of the idea that the BMs have to fit into some little perfect puzzle you are trying to create.  These are your friends and plus-sized women that aren't necessarily going to look or feel great in the same clothing as smaller-sized women.

The fact that they don't like the way they look will show in your pictures.  They will look forced, unhappy, and uncomfortable.  I'm pretty sure that wouldn't fit into your picture-perfect, matchy matchy, wedding puzzle either.

Every single one of my BMs wore a different black dress.  Black was the only requirement.  Every BM choose a different style, length, fabric, designer, whatever.  Not only were they happy with the dresses (look, price etc) but their individuality really came through in my pictures and IMO, made everything look even better.  Everyone looked and felt great and to me, that was more important than stuffing my plus-sized BMs into a dress they hated because I couldn't get it out of my head that everyone had to dressed exactly the same.

So tacky, no, it is not.  Fabulous, yes, it is.

bablingbrooke

Treating your BMs as props is also really tacky.

sarabear23

if your girls carry their weight in the abdomen, that dress probably wont be flattering because it has a dropped waist. HAVE THEM TRY IT ON.

stina93446

I don't understand why you keep posting here rather than ask your girls what THEy want to wear.....I mean, I can understand if they can't fit in the samples, but you should still ask THEM. And even if you don't like DB, you should go because they have plus size dresses and you can see the cuts that look good on each girl. Please be more open minded about this.

stina93446

And I don't think that dress will look good on plus size girls....I would think that they'd want more support for boobies. And one arms may not offer that. I have huge tatas and I wouldn't feel comfortable with one arm dresses. They aren't designed to hold everything in.  A strapless would be better support, but it really varies from each girl.

sarabear23

stina, i LOVE your picture!

SocialWorker2B

I completely understand hating DB......with that said, I just got my MOH dress from there, as well as my first wedding dress, and had no problems. I really think that they would be the easiest way to go - for you, for your BMs and for the girls on this board. :-)

They have plus size dresses and they absolutely need to try the dresses one. I don't think either dress you posted would look good on plus size girls, IMHO.

As for alterations cost at DB, you should strive to pick a dress that the girls don't have to get altered. I wouldn't pay for alterations to a BM dress myself, it's just ridiculous.

I really, really, really think that in this situation you should let them pick different dresses. I personally like the matchy look (not shoes though!) but you've obviously got BMs who do not want to wear the same dress sooooo......don't make them wear the same dress! Easy peasy.

GO TO DB! Or AA. Somewhere, please. And, obviously this dress is an automatic no for your BM who wants to be covered from head to toe so why ae you even bothering with it?

GL :-)

tenhunderd

I like the dress, but I have a few plus sized girls in my wedding and the fit and flare or trumpet styles never fit right. I would go for more of an A line or something less hugging.

and btw.
leave this girl alone! she's asked all of your advise on the dress, not what you think about her not wanting them to wear different styles, etc. Why be so negative and judgemental??