Please help us settle this disagreement:
So, we are having two flower girls in my wedding. FG #1 is my 5 year old cousin. FG #2 is the daughter of my other cousin (who is also one of my Bridesmaids). These are the only two young children on my side of the family. We've been planning to have an adults only reception all along, but my FI thinks that it is 'unfair' to have two kids at the wedding, when none of the kids on his side of the family are invited. I've been to weddings before where the only kids at the wedding are the flower girls/ring bearers (in fact his cousin did this!), so I am pretty sure that this is OK -- am I wrong?
FI doesn't feel slighted that his side is being left out -- in fact, he is way less inclined to inviting children to the wedding than I am. He just wants to be fair (and not ruffle any feathers). I, on the other hand, don't really have a problem with having children at the wedding, but don't really think that we have to make that concession just because we are having flower girls.
Also, if it makes any difference: his family is local, whereas my family is coming across the country for the wedding, so besides the added expense they will be incurring with airfare/hotel, they wouldn't have anyone local that they know and trust to watch their children.
Sorry this is so long. Thanks in advance for the advice!