Bridesmaid Dillema

bethsupe

Hi- I have only been engaged for about a month- but have stressed out about the bridesmaid situation even before I was engaged. I really do not want a large bridal party-I was hoping to have a maid of honor and that be it- my fiance says he would have a hard time picking one person (he has two brothers and a close friend) THe problem is I have more then enough girls i could ask- I just dont know if I really want to ask them- and im pretty sure one or two would be offended that I dont. I moved to FL about 2 years ago and got a little disconnected from some of them. I really dont want any drama and issues. IS it wrong to not ask someone to be in your wedding party if they think they will be asked... or do you have a wedding party with people that you dont think have been there for you? HELP!!!

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]Hi- I have only been engaged for about a month- but have stressed out about the bridesmaid situation even before I was engaged. I really do not want a large bridal party-I was hoping to have a maid of honor and that be it- my fiance says he would have a hard time picking one person (he has two brothers and a close friend) THe problem is I have more then enough girls i could ask- I just dont know if I really want to ask them- and im pretty sure one or two would be offended that I dont. I moved to FL about 2 years ago and got a little disconnected from some of them. I really dont want any drama and issues. IS it wrong to not ask someone to be in your wedding party if they think they will be asked... or do you have a wedding party with people that you dont think have been there for you? HELP!!!
Posted by bethsupe[/QUOTE]

If the wedding date in your profile is correct, you shouldn't even be worrying about this until after the first of the year.

mbcdefg

It's not wrong to avoid asking people because you just aren't feeling it. It IS wrong to leave someone out, or ask someone you don't wholeheartedly want, just to have an equal number of bridesmaids vs. groomsmen. So just have your MOH, let your fiance ask whoever he wants even if it's several people, and everybody wins. But before you do that, get some plans set in stone first. Book a ceremony and reception site to set your date saying "June 15 sounds nice" is not what sets your date and have a frank discussion with your fianc about your budget and all your ideas. THEN worry about a bridal party when you're under a year out from the wedding.

Maggie0829

What PP said.

And if all you want is a MOH then just have a MOH.  Who cares if your FI wants to ask 3 people or 20, you pick your side and he picks his.  Sides do not have to be even and you should not fill in spots to make it so, especially if you really didn't want certain people to be in your bridal party to begin with.

aerinpegadrak

Don't ask anyone until you have a firm date set (as in, contracts signed and deposits paid).  If nothing else, you can't ask people to commit to something when you can't tell them for certain when it's taking place.