I know your wedding party are not your slaves and they don't have to really do anything till the day of at which point they show up in their dress and smile.
Well I"m having the opposite problem with my MOH. I think she's offended that I haven't used her more.
I'm a pretty independant person, if I decide I want to go walk around the craft store so see if anything jumps out at me, or get inspiration from, I just go. I don't wait for someone to come with me, I just go when I want to go. When we addressed our save the dates, I just did a few every night here and there until they were done. I enjoyed doing them, it wasn't a chore. It was relaxing. Well were now 8 months out, I've pretty much done everything myself and my maid of honour just goes. "I haven't gotten to help you because you've done everything yourself." She even seemed disappointed that she couldn't come to my alterations appointment because it was during the day. (Honestly, i was in and out in 15 mins, it would have been pointless for her to come.)
I really don't know how to make her feel more involved. She's planning my bachelorette party and my shower. She came to all my dress appointments. She was at all the BM dress appointments.
Everything else I've either done on my own or done with my FI.
When it comes closer, I'm sure there will be more things to do. Like put together the favor boxes and make the wedding cupcakes, she'll be able to help out with that, but other than that I have no idea.
Perhaps I'm the opposite of the bride that expects too much from their wedding party and expect nothing and now she's feeling left out. I dont know what to do!
~~Sept 2013 Brides - January Siggy - Floral Inspiration~~