I do not want to come across as a Bridezilla here, but I am very nervous about my poorly behaved niece being my flower girl. I am not wanting to cancel my request for her to be my flower girl. However, after having asked her/her mother to be my flower girl I have spent some significant time with her and she behaves atrociously pretty much 100% of the time. And I mean, difficult to take out in public, people staring, constantly having to apologize to strangers kind of behavior.
Also, before making excuses for the child/parent, thinking she's two or three years old... This girl is seven years old and acts worse than most four year olds I've met.
I am not at this moment considering revoking my request, but I do not want to have a child completely hijack the ceremony, or disrupt it significantly. I was looking for advice on how to broach the subject with her mother of whether she thinks her daughter could handle the role and stand still for the ceremony etc. I don't want it to come across as "Your daughter behaves horribly..." I'm very nervous about having this conversation with her mother, but I'm more nervous about having the ceremony ruined.
Any advice would be MUCH appreciated.