So my one bridesmaid has been my friend for about 10 years now and we have known each other for even longer, we were really close in our teen years but we have kinda grown apart (and by grown apart I really mean I've grown up and she can still be really immature), but my mom insisted that I have her be part of the bridal party so I asked her to be and she said yes.
But now I'm having second thoughts and almost wish I could undo it... she doesn't have money to buy her dress and apparently didn't realize that it was part of her job to do so when she said yes... so my mom has said she would buy her dress because my sister is not in my wedding and my mom would have bought my sister's dress. I'm worried that my friend will act up and do something like start poking people at the reception because she is bored or that she just won't act very mature.
Now here is the tricky part, a week ago I told her that I needed her to go get sized ASAP so that I can order her dress and she still hasn't gotten back to me. I need to order the dress by June 9th because they take 8-12 weeks to come in which puts me right up against my wedding date which isn't cool. I think the dresses should be in at least a few weeks before jic they need altered. So do I say something again to her? I've already had a few other issues with her with things and I'm secretely hoping that she doesn't get sized in time, so that I don't have to order the dress and then it wouldn't be on me when she won't be able to be in the wedding... but I feel horrible for wishing that she weren't... any suggestions/feedback/comments?